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Anna Livia    7

Anna Livia
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I say please don't be shamed by your own mind or anyone else's comments do what you need to do to make your life better your health improve and your mobility no one else has to agree or like your decision it's your life and if you had any other illness or a disease would you not seek treatment?

Thanks for your positive comments. "Fat shaming" seems to me to be one of the last "acceptable" forms of prejudice. It makes me very upset & annoyed.

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Hi everyone, my question is pre-surgery, did any of you feel shame about seeking your gastric sleeve surgery? and if you did, how did you cope and do you have any advice about coping with this feeling? I feel terrible shame. I'm going to meet with my GP on Friday and dread asking for a referral to a consultant so much that my husband is coming with me for support. I live in Ireland and this kind of surgery is the exception rather than the rule. I am very disabled from severe osteoarthritis and live in chronic pain and it is for this reason that I would like to have gastric surgery. I have researched and thought about gastric surgery for about nearly 2 years following knee surgery.

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I also have osteoarthritis plus I have fibro myalgia. I felt like I was cheating going to ask my GP for a referral. She said no worries I may see you there sometime, I had it done 2 weeks ago. My surgeon also had it done this year. There is nothing to be ashamed of because if you are like me, I put on more weight because of the side effects of my medication. I sat in my GP's office in tears because no matter what diet, shake or pills I took just didn't work for me. I don't know if it's the same in your country, but in Australia we have to have a session with a psychologist before we are accepted for the surgery. I found my session really helpful. I hope all goes well for you and remember that you are doing this to give you a second chance to change your life and make living with your ilnesses more bearable.

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Anna Livia    7

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Hi everyone, my question is pre-surgery, did any of you feel shame about seeking your gastric sleeve surgery? and if you did, how did you cope and do you have any advice about coping with this feeling? I feel terrible shame. I'm going to meet with my GP on Friday and dread asking for a referral to a consultant so much that my husband is coming with me for support. I live in Ireland and this kind of surgery is the exception rather than the rule. I am very disabled from severe osteoarthritis and live in chronic pain and it is for this reason that I would like to have gastric surgery. I have researched and thought about gastric surgery for about nearly 2 years following knee surgery.

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I also have osteoarthritis plus I have fibro myalgia. I felt like I was cheating going to ask my GP for a referral. She said no worries I may see you there sometime, I had it done 2 weeks ago. My surgeon also had it done this year. There is nothing to be ashamed of because if you are like me, I put on more weight because of the side effects of my medication. I sat in my GP's office in tears because no matter what diet, shake or pills I took just didn't work for me. I don't know if it's the same in your country, but in Australia we have to have a session with a psychologist before we are accepted for the surgery. I found my session really helpful. I hope all goes well for you and remember that you are doing this to give you a second chance to change your life and make living with your ilnesses more bearable.

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Thank you so much for your support. I hate being so disabled and in constant pain. Being able to stay working full time is what keeps my mind busy but I miss not being able to walk, shop, sightsee, things that I used to enjoy because of pain or fatigue and really believe this surgery will make those things easier to do

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