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This is a sensitive subject.

My soon to be ex husband called me fatty.

I shrugged it off and laughed and will be filing for divorce.

It hurt at first, going through the verbal abuse for years. Now, I just laugh.

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Hence the reason why I do not allow any more negativity in my life.

He can jump off a cliff.

I'm feeling better, the weight is coming off. Will power and positive thoughts!

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When I was in my early 20s, my boyfriend at the time told me that no one else would want me because I had became a blob. When he met me at 14, I was thin. It hurt, but I welcome that hurt because it opened my eyes that he's been verbally abusive all along. It empowered me to easily walk away. After that, he showed up at all my different universities through the years asking to talk to me again (never gave him my number or home address), only for me to smile and say "No, thanks."

Good for you. When people resort to name calling, it says a lot more about them than the person they are verbally abusing. To walk away from a toxic person is a major accomplishment in itself. *hugs*

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I think we all have.... But no one calls me fat now... Looking hot is such sweet revenge!!!

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Tanya I hear they get called stringbean, Sparerib, scrawny, slimlimb(that one fails me) flat to. Teeny tiney whiney. Had friend Whitney, she went thru Whitney Whitney little bit of Me. Peoples is just nasty sometimes.

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@@tanya0974, It's good that you are mentally strong enough to make yourself better and brush off the soon to be ex's comments as his own terrible insecurity. In my experience those who throw stones are just trying to keep you in the same sphere of misery that they are in. No one needs that.

I have a couple to share, Painful but in the past.

I lived with a boyfriend many years ago. I was fully aware that all his ex-gfs had been rail thin. But I was somewhat confidant that he loved me for who I was. One night, in bed, during intimacy he said "I have never been with anyone as thick as you." That really hurt me. I was only a size 14-16 at the time.

When I was 12, my dad called me fat. I've never forgotten that moment.

At age 47, I am blessed to be married to the most considerate, loving man on the planet. He supports my surgery journey but loves me in any shape.

Best of luck to you in your journey!

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Absolutely! Every time I'm in any kind of verbal altercation it seems that people resort to "you fat _____". It bothered me. I'm very sensitive about my size. I have not always been this size. I gained ALL my weight after my dad passed and while I was in nursing school doing nothing but studying and eating. Before that I was was 120 lbs soaking wet, all my life. It seems as if you let someone know it pisses you off or bothers you, they will use it again and again. Recently, this girl attacked me on a Facebook selling site because I decided I'd pass on something I'd planned to buy after reviewing close up pictures and seeing many flaws. So my halfway joking response to her was "I wouldn't give you a half eaten snickers bar for that dresser, it's badly damaged" so, she came back with "by the looks of your profile pic, you have not ever left a half a snicker bar" (good come back, I know) I was hurt and embarrassed by her post and got defensive. Typed out a long ignorant response. Reread it before I sent it and then said "no, I'm not going to continue this and give people something to read" so I just said "whoa, hey there, the camera adds 10 pounds. Haven't you heard?" So even though that told her that I was Unphased by her comment I desperately wanted her to delete the whole thread before anyone seen it. She ended up deleting it. Thank god. Realizing that me dismissing her meanness made her look stupid.

Words hurt. I use to be that mean girl calling people names like that. I feel like I got my karma by gaining so much weight. I will never be like that again. I teach my kids the same everyday.

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My entire life, since elementary school. In adulthood, it stopped being so blatant as name-calling and started getting more subtle and passive-aggressive...but it's always been there. There is a lot of intolerance and anger toward obese people, for some reason. We have a problem, but nobody would treat someone with any other physical challenge the way people treat obese folks.

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My entire life, since elementary school. In adulthood, it stopped being so blatant as name-calling and started getting more subtle and passive-aggressive...but it's always been there. There is a lot of intolerance and anger toward obese people, for some reason. We have a problem, but nobody would treat someone with any other physical challenge the way people treat obese folks.

I agree. Well at least we can fix our weight and ARE fixing it. Can't fix those character flaws those people have.

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All my life Hun... I'm from an Indian family and even though my parents and family is very liberal and open minded my extended family back in India Is extremely judgemental ... all they care about is being skinny.. no one in India ever bothered to ask me how I am and what I do for a living.. all they ever asked me is how much weight I have lost... and they treat skinny people much more nicely than they treat fat people... I cannot even begin to explain how much I've suffered in life and how many taunts and comments I have got all my life... I got sleeved 3 weeks ago and I am hoping that all this is going to change... I plan on going to India once all my weight is off and then see what the haters r gonna say!!

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