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Why all the judgement

Capricorn86

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Babbs    14,681

Babbs
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I don't recall anyone saying they had all they answers and were perfect?

I see people who are years out from surgery who are more seasoned than some others who give advice because they've been there done that. I wouldn't have been as successful as I was with this surgery if I had chosen to not listen to their very wise advice and take into consideration they may know what they are talking about because, well, they're SUCCESSFUL?

So there's that.

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ShelterDog64    2,364

ShelterDog64
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You're talking about the one who said "buy a lotto ticket", right?

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OutsideMatchInside    10,166

OutsideMatchInside
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Yo, you made a thread about fried chicken on WLS boards. How did you really think that was going to go?!?!!?

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okiegirl1980    73

okiegirl1980
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You'd rather hear from people who ate swedish fish and tacos and pizza? OK!

Yum Swedish fish oh and fish tacos! Yummy

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WLSResources/ClothingExch    3,444

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@@Capricorn86, no, there is no magic in WLS, therefore, no perfection.

You made a mighty sweeping statement. I surmise that you're referring to something specific? Specificity would help if you're seeking responses. If you just wanted to have your say, that's fine, too. There's the "Rants & Raves" forum if you like.

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PorkChopExpress    826

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A good support group doesn't support you when you're screwing up, they call you on it. Most of the people here are trying to reform their behaviors and attitudes about food, they didn't think that getting operated on was going to fix their problem (it's not), because the problem is in their head. The surgery is just a tool to help enforce rules. The fact that you had a normal stomach wasn't what made you obese, and having a smaller stomach won't stop you from gaining weight. The internet and support groups are littered with people who regained the weight, or couldn't lose after surgery. A lot of them STILL not putting the blame where it needs to be - on themselves.

To come on a WLS board and proudly post that you're gonna have some fried chicken, weeks after your surgery, and expect support for that just blows my flippin' mind...and it tells everyone here that you were NOT mentally ready to have this surgery, and are not mentally where you need to be in order to succeed long-term. So we're gonna call you on it, in the hopes that you'll actually do some soul-searching about whether you REALLY want to change, at all. It's not too late, but the fact is...right now, your attitude is not going to be conducive to success. "You're so judgmental. I just wanted some fried chicken, what's so wrong with that?" What's wrong with that is, if your mind was right, you'd be just as taken aback as all of us are that you even thought to eat that crap right now, so soon after surgery and so long before you've reached your goals.

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Dub    10,027

Dub
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I come on here and I wonder y r people being so judgmental like all of a sudden u have all the answers and are so perfect after wls

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All the answers ? Only this guy ^^^^^^^^^^^ has all the answers. He and he alone holds the secret recipe........

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shoodle72    61

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I read this information and wonder why people are choosing to eat fried food too. I guess everybody is different. I am pre op and my gastric sleeve surgery is scheduled on the 21st October. I have completed 15 days out of my 21 day pre op diet without any issues. I have learnt something about myself which is that I am strong. I feel very motivated to change my lifestyle. I realise that I have used my weight as a way of hiding due to past issues. The sleeve will not make that go away. It is going to be a tool to keep me on track but I still have to work on my other demons that have previously caused me to quit previous diets. Life isn't going to be easy, it is going to change.

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sickoftroublemakers    14

sickoftroublemakers
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Hi, it seems like a lot of ppl on here are only here to stir the pot causing so many hard feelings.

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So far all (three? four?) of your posts have been negative just as your username is. Just an observation.
There needs to be a delete button on here. Better yet I won't waste my time on trouble makers in this group.

TREAT PPL WITH RESPECT

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