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Debbie_downsizing    9

Debbie_downsizing
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Hey guys,

I've always kind of lurked around, don't really say much. But I need some advice. Here's a little about me. My name is Deborah, you can call me Deb. I'm 26 years old and I've been over weight almost all of my life. When I was 8 I had a really bad incident with some boiling Water and after that I never wanted to play outside, I stayed inside eating. My mother tells me she regrets never taking me to see someone professionally because she believes it has stemmed a lot of weight issues, as well as depression, anxiety. Etc.

Anyway, fast forward to 2010, I find out I'm pregnant with my first, my daughter. I knew right then that my weight (especially since every doctors visit included a long speech about how being obese can hurt or hinder the pregnancy) would have a huge toll on me being a good mother. Just like everyone here, I've dieted and failed a million times over. I'd lose then gain and was constantly reminding myself how useless I was. It was some very dark times for me! So that's why I decided to look into bariatric surgery. 2013 I find out that I'm pregnant with my son. So that kind of stopped every thing in its tracks. Well I finally jumped through all of my insurance requirements and FINALLY got the gastric sleeve on September 29th at 7:30 in the morning. My heaviest ever was 350. Day of surgery, I was down to 335. My issue is...its been 2 days and I still cannot move! I'm in such unbearable pain that I can't go to the bathroom by myself, I can't get up and down without my husband (who's 135 lbs sopping wet) pulling me up and letting me use his shoulders to lower myself down. I can't pull my own pants up, tmi but I can't even wipe myself! I know it's only been a couple of days and everyone responds differently but is there anyone else out there that has dealt with this? I feel like every muscle in my stomach tears apart every time I stand up. They burn like they're on fire! I'm really worried. Oh and the doctor has me on Percocet which I have been taking faithfully to keep ahead of the pain. Why am I having such issues? Just too early still?

TIA.

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laceemouse    631

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Did you have the sleeve? What kind of pain? Most people are walking right after surgery and doing pretty well by the time they get home.

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Debbie_downsizing    9

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Lacee, I had the gastric sleeve. I walked all through those hallways when I was in the hospital and have continued to walk after I'm home. It is just incredibly painful to do so. It's not the incisions and it's not my sleeve that feels painful, it feels mostly like maybe the heaviness of my belly is pulling at all of my muscles and they're tearing apart! I still can't do anything unassisted. ????

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cbonet    336

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Have you informed your doctor? You need to move to prevent clots. Call the Dr and explain how you are feeling. You may also need a different pain killer. Are you taking the gas medicine daily? You need the gas medicine and you need to walk to get the gas out.

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laceemouse    631

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I was wondering about gas pain too, I know that hurts bad :(

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laceemouse    631

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Also some people wear an abdominal binder. Maybe a binder to hold your tummy firm would feel better?? I am sorry you are having a bad time!

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epiphany2011    16

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Lacee, I had the gastric sleeve. I walked all through those hallways when I was in the hospital and have continued to walk after I'm home. It is just incredibly painful to do so. It's not the incisions and it's not my sleeve that feels painful, it feels mostly like maybe the heaviness of my belly is pulling at all of my muscles and they're tearing apart! I still can't do anything unassisted. ????

Try an abdominal binder. It's great support.

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Pescador    1,374

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Percocet should kill ANY pain. Please call your doctor.

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Butterflywarrior    241

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Percoset is pretty darn strong for t he average bear. This pain sound

s abnormal especially for laproscopy. .I've had open surgery in t h e past and that wasn't even the kinda pain I was in. It sounds like you need to call the surgeon ASAP or even go to t h e er to make sure nothing serious is going on. You maybe one of those few ppl who don't respond to pain meds well. If you have seen your surgeon, than like others have suggested, a abdominal binder can do wonders

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Sorry about your pain. I have not been sleeved yet, but one concern is pulling from abdomen. I was 332 and now go between 255-268. I have a hanging panni aka abdomen and so scared that it will pull down and cause pain on sleeve incisions. Again sorry for all your pain. You need to walk a bit because you don't want blood clots definitely contact your doctor.

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Seagull    140

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I was completely miserable for around 4-5 days. I found that laughing even hurt so bad I didn't want to do that either.

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Debbie_downsizing    9

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Thank you everyone! I'm definitely going to call my surgeon to see what he thinks I should do. Another thing, I didn't mention and I'm not sure if any one else has ever experienced, I have literal lumps around my incisions that my stomach feels like it has "hills"? I guess is the only way to explain it. I figured it was just gas/swelling but it's not gone down any at all. Where can I get an abdominal binder? That sounds like heaven. Someone said something about it hurts too much to laugh...I haven't been able to laugh/cough/ sneeze without feeling like my stomach is going to literally tear apart. Thanks again everyone. I didn't feel like this was normal.

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thatmeanone    240

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I think you should call your surgeon and tell him that you are heading to the emergency room.

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