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Hubby is awesome, and very supportive. So, when I ask him to indulge me with things like way too many trips to the mall and new (on sale) clothes and high heels that I normally wouldn't buy. He is encouraging and always has a smile. And when I have told him for the millionth time that day to look at how baggy these pants are he again smiles and agrees every time. Any sweet things your significant other does to support your efforts?

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I could walk out every morning looking like an elephant or a skinny monkey and my husband would say Good Morning Beautiful! I simply have to be near him to feel like the most special and beautiful woman on earth. I wish every woman had this kind of love and acceptance, but he is number three. Number one of 20'years, greatest friend ever even though he never found his way home, number 2 four years almost was the death of me, but 25 years with number three warms my heart and soul in our twilight years. My children say Mom, you deserve him. I think so too.

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My fiancé has been amazing. I'm 7 weeks post op and for the first 2-3 weeks, he was hardly eating anything cause he didn't want to make it hard for me. I had to practically force him to eat and assure him that I was fine around food. He never admitted that's what he was doing either. He just kept saying he wasn't hungry or had a big lunch at work. It was pretty cute. Like the above poster said, he would think I'm beautiful at 1000 pounds or 100 so that in itself has been hugely helpful in my journey cause I know that I have his support either way.

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My partner is so supportive from being supportive of the original idea and being fine about me spending 20k on me

to asking me how I feel when I was unwell and if I needed anything and always celebrating the milestones with me mentioning how tiny I am now but mostly just being there for me always

if I didn't feel like making dinner he was fine with it he tried to make being around food easy for me and I owe everything to him because without a supportive encouraging partner this journey would not have been the success it is.

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During my pre-op diet it was hard to cook dinner for the kids. My husband cooked for them and he would light a scented candle to offset the yummy smell of the dinner he was cooking.

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Hubby is awesome, and very supportive. So, when I ask him to indulge me with things like way too many trips to the mall and new (on sale) clothes and high heels that I normally wouldn't buy. He is encouraging and always has a smile. And when I have told him for the millionth time that day to look at how baggy these pants are he again smiles and agrees every time. Any sweet things your significant other does to support your efforts?

3.5 years of listening to me go on and on about weight loss, Protein, and pretty much anything and everything WLS related. He has to be 100% sick and tired of me and the surgery by now, but he keeps that smile on his face and continues to tell me how proud he is of me. :D

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He's been very supportive and to an extent, like the "food police". He is encouraging me to stay on liquids for a bit longer and not adding too many foods, even soft ones, into my diet yet.

I am only 3 weeks out and liquids do feel best in my belly for now. Also, he doesn't want me to blow it- to have gone through all of this and not succeed.

He says I talk about food a lot. I challenged him to go on an all liquid diet for 3 weeks and tell me food was not always on his mind!

So, he's been supportive, but also kind of annoying, mostly for my own good, though.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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