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You are correct, it is offensive and I apologize if I offended anyone here. The woman who I was in reference to absolutely disgusted me and my fellow coworkers with her display of her body to attract the older men that come to my office. Once again I apologize if I offended anyone here.

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For those of you who have negative things to say about "8 inch cleavage" and the like, I feel like this is mean-spirited and sounds a lot like fat shaming. I would think we all have had enough of that and that it wouldn't be tolerated on this site. I don't want to incite more riotous posts (a la tacos and pork chops) but maybe we could all be a little kinder to those who have struggled and are tuning in here for support and advice. *rant over*

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I'd just like to set the record straight. I'm a man. Eight inches of cleavage doesn't upset me and in no way was I fat shaming. There is a huge difference between a person (male or female) doing the best that they can to look appropriate in a professional environment vs someone who overly flaunts their body. I couldn't care less if they were 100 pounds vs 300+ pounds. Once again I'm sorry if I offended anyone here.

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For those of you who have negative things to say about "8 inch cleavage" and the like, I feel like this is mean-spirited and sounds a lot like fat shaming. I would think we all have had enough of that and that it wouldn't be tolerated on this site. I don't want to incite more riotous posts (a la tacos and pork chops) but maybe we could all be a little kinder to those who have struggled and are tuning in here for support and advice. *rant over*

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I'd just like to set the record straight. I'm a man. Eight inches of cleavage doesn't upset me and in no way was I fat shaming. There is a huge difference between a person (male or female) doing the best that they can to look appropriate in a professional environment vs someone who overly flaunts their body. I couldn't care less if they were 100 pounds vs 300+ pounds. Once again I'm sorry if I offended anyone here.
Thanks for the clarification. Agreed, it's not appropriate in an office environment.

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Finally a subject that I feel that I'm qualified for. Boobs. Yes I'm a man and yes I like boobs. That being said, I worked with a lady who was 80-100 pounds overweight who always wore clothes that were revealing. She was at least a full DD cup. I was so turned off by her display that it wasn't even funny. I have no problem with women with curves or a woman being sexy but when trying so hard that she turns slutty then something is wrong. Eight inches of cleavage is like plumbers crack.

I'm just catching this thread and I'm going to say something right here. I abhor the use of the word "slutty" when referring to a woman's appearance (or behavior). The fact that other females "liked" this post is seriously appalling. A woman has every right to wear what she wants without being subjected to such a horrible characterization.

The words sl*t and wh0re are as degrading as the "c" word and shame on anyone who supports the use of them.

I agree with the non-use of those words. Just to be clear, my like was for the vision of a woman's breast as a plumber's crack - in my mind, it was something Simpsons-cartoon esque, complete with the plain white t and all. I'd never fat or s-shame a woman.

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For those of you who have negative things to say about "8 inch cleavage" and the like, I feel like this is mean-spirited and sounds a lot like fat shaming. I would think we all have had enough of that and that it wouldn't be tolerated on this site. I don't want to incite more riotous posts (a la tacos and pork chops) but maybe we could all be a little kinder to those who have struggled and are tuning in here for support and advice. *rant over*

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I'd just like to set the record straight. I'm a man. Eight inches of cleavage doesn't upset me and in no way was I fat shaming. There is a huge difference between a person (male or female) doing the best that they can to look appropriate in a professional environment vs someone who overly flaunts their body. I couldn't care less if they were 100 pounds vs 300+ pounds. Once again I'm sorry if I offended anyone here.

I don't disagree with your thought process, just the word choice. :)

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For those of you who have negative things to say about "8 inch cleavage" and the like, I feel like this is mean-spirited and sounds a lot like fat shaming. I would think we all have had enough of that and that it wouldn't be tolerated on this site. I don't want to incite more riotous posts (a la tacos and pork chops) but maybe we could all be a little kinder to those who have struggled and are tuning in here for support and advice. *rant over*

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I'd just like to set the record straight. I'm a man. Eight inches of cleavage doesn't upset me and in no way was I fat shaming. There is a huge difference between a person (male or female) doing the best that they can to look appropriate in a professional environment vs someone who overly flaunts their body. I couldn't care less if they were 100 pounds vs 300+ pounds. Once again I'm sorry if I offended anyone here.

I hear ya.

Understood.

FWIW.......I see cleavage and I see.......................hmmm...........wtf was I saying ????

Sorry. Easily distracted dude, I am.

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Plumbers crack.............we Brits call it Builder's Bum. Personally, I loathe having to look at one, nice arse or nasty arse not withstanding. My other half is a builder and if I ever catch him showing his crack on a job in front of a client (or anywhere else for that matter) I will personally get hold of his belt and do his jeans up so high and tight that his balls bleat for mercy. Rant over.

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Plumbers crack.............we Brits call it Builder's Bum. Personally, I loathe having to look at one, nice arse or nasty arse not withstanding. My other half is a builder and if I ever catch him showing his crack on a job in front of a client (or anywhere else for that matter) I will personally get hold of his belt and do his jeans up so high and tight that his balls bleat for mercy. Rant over.

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Awww come on tell us how you really feel! :)

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I love my 8" cleavage.... damn glad i still have it after losing over 100lbs.... Mine are still full and beautiful.... i don't wear inappropriate clothes to work...(i save those for the street corner... lol jk) i wear what fit and looks best on me.... and if it happens to be a "V" neck... so be it. I haven't heard any complainants nor have i been pulled in a office to be reprimanded about it....

So that being said..... if my 8" cleavage offends anyone..... i say kiss my bony b*tt.....

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@@kimini see that's how you handle haters.... You tell them that there opinion of you doesn't matter. What matters is how we feel about ourselves....

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The flowers are fine with me, but I didn't know that some in the photos in BP are cartoonie things.

What makes me wonder are the photos of pre-surgery women who put effort into showing cleavage that's 8" deep. What are they trying to say?

I didnt know it was possible to have 8" of cleavage. Im slightly jealous!

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