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Happy Friday!

First off, I just want to say that I am not reconsidering my decision to get surgery. It's happening! But I think that might be my problem.

I am starting my pre op diet this Monday and being sleeved on 9/14. I have gone through so much to get to this point and I thought that I had never been so sure of anything in my life. All of a sudden the last few days, as the day gets closer I am second guessing myself. Am I sure this is right? What if something goes wrong? What if I regret it? If I am in pain will I hate myself for it? Could I really not lose this weight without surgery? It strange because I KNOW the answer to all of these questions, and I KNOW that the surgery is what I need and that a year from now I will do nothing but thank myself. BUT for some reason, I have been questioning myself the past few days.

I am summing this up to my fear and my anxiety about the surgery talking to me and that it's comparable to cold feet before a wedding. I have never been hospitalized before and the closest thing to surgery I had was my wisdom teeth removed.

But at the SAME TIME I am SO EXCITED for this surgery. I am so excited to feel better and look better and move more and not be so self conscious about myself.

Did anyone else go through these emotions? How did you get your mind at ease? I think that I am going crazy!

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@ A lot of people have had doubts right before surgery - some have even backed out (a few who regretted backing out). I think it's normal to be anxious of the "unknown". Follow your guidelines and you will have a better chance of a successful surgery and recovery!!! Good luck!!!

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Never had second thought, never had a moment of regret.

Was I nervous pre-op about the procedure and endless list of risks that come with any surgery? Sure! Was I more afraid of the damage I was doing to my body by being morbidly obese? Absolutely.

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I'm right there with so I have no answers! I'm also set for the 14th of September and scared as I don't know what. Also asking if this is the right decision for me

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@@Monet08

I'm glad I am not alone! I don't even know if I make sense when I say this .......

It's like I am two different people right now - I want this so bad, I am so excited for it, I know that I need it and if I were not to do it I would never forgive myself. I'm not even considering not going thru with it. But all of a sudden I'm freaking out with the pre op jitters and what if this happens or that goes wrong.

I can't wait until its here and it's over and I'm moving forward!

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I had my surgery on August 15th, The last couple of days before my surgery, I was really having some doubts. Got really nervous. My main goal was to get better control over my diabetes and the pre-op diet did that for me. So I had just about talked myself into just skipping surgery and low carbing it forever. Then I thought about all of the effort I had put into getting approved and ready for surgery. I thought about how my doctors and my insurance company thought that this is something that would benefit my health and potentially prolong my life. I realized that I may not get another opportunity like this- so I went through with it,

I can tell you without a doubt, that having the surgery was definitely the best decision for me. I am not even quite 2 weeks post op and I am already thrilled with my results. I weigh 25 lbs less than I did 1 month ago (lost 10 lb pre-op & rest after surgery), I don't take any diabetes medication any more (I used to take 5 shots of insulin per day & oral medication). I found recovery to be much easier than I expected. My pain was never more than a 4 out of 10.I feel like I have a new lease on life. I am so happy that I didn't talk myself out of the surgery.

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What time are you schedule for. I'm glad mine is at 730 so I'm at hospital at 5am that way I'm in and set

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Happy Friday!

First off, I just want to say that I am not reconsidering my decision to get surgery. It's happening! But I think that might be my problem.

I am starting my pre op diet this Monday and being sleeved on 9/14. I have gone through so much to get to this point and I thought that I had never been so sure of anything in my life. All of a sudden the last few days, as the day gets closer I am second guessing myself. Am I sure this is right? What if something goes wrong? What if I regret it? If I am in pain will I hate myself for it? Could I really not lose this weight without surgery? It strange because I KNOW the answer to all of these questions, and I KNOW that the surgery is what I need and that a year from now I will do nothing but thank myself. BUT for some reason, I have been questioning myself the past few days.

I am summing this up to my fear and my anxiety about the surgery talking to me and that it's comparable to cold feet before a wedding. I have never been hospitalized before and the closest thing to surgery I had was my wisdom teeth removed.

But at the SAME TIME I am SO EXCITED for this surgery. I am so excited to feel better and look better and move more and not be so self conscious about myself.

Did anyone else go through these emotions? How did you get your mind at ease? I think that I am going crazy!

Hi! I'm 6 weeks post op now, but i had the same thoughts for the last 2 weeks before surgery. I was terrified, and unsure if im doing the right thing.

However, it was just cold feet. I went through with it, and although it's hard work, im very glad i did. 32 lbs down and developing good habits..

Good luck to you!

make it a great day

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I'm almost 4 months out and had a niggle or regret the other week cos I was in a stall and frustrated. But it passed very quickly. It's a long road and it is going to be bumpy but most of the time I've been really happy with my decision

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All of these comments have helped me so much. I have surgery in 4 days and the doubts started to creep in last night. I am currently sitting at the hospital waiting for preop and the butterflies are everywhere in my stomach.... Ugghh! I check in at noon on tuesday. Why do they do that to us?? I wish i was in first thing in morning.

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I know how you feel. I was supposed to have surgery 3 years ago and I got so much anxiety that I backed out 2 weeks before. So many times since then I had wished that I would have just gone through with it. Last November I started this journey again and am scheduled for surgery in 4 days, Aug 30th. Of course I have anxiety but this time I am more excited and ready to start my healthier life. Talking with other people who have gone through this surgery has helped me tremendously. Any surgery is scary but just remind yourself that in the end you will be so happy you did this. Best of luck to you!

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I know how you feel. I was supposed to have surgery 3 years ago and I got so much anxiety that I backed out 2 weeks before. So many times since then I had wished that I would have just gone through with it. Last November I started this journey again and am scheduled for surgery in 4 days, Aug 30th. Of course I have anxiety but this time I am more excited and ready to start my healthier life. Talking with other people who have gone through this surgery has helped me tremendously. Any surgery is scary but just remind yourself that in the end you will be so happy you did this. Best of luck to you!

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We have surgery same day!!

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Happy Friday!

First off, I just want to say that I am not reconsidering my decision to get surgery. It's happening! But I think that might be my problem.

I am starting my pre op diet this Monday and being sleeved on 9/14. I have gone through so much to get to this point and I thought that I had never been so sure of anything in my life. All of a sudden the last few days, as the day gets closer I am second guessing myself. Am I sure this is right? What if something goes wrong? What if I regret it? If I am in pain will I hate myself for it? Could I really not lose this weight without surgery? It strange because I KNOW the answer to all of these questions, and I KNOW that the surgery is what I need and that a year from now I will do nothing but thank myself. BUT for some reason, I have been questioning myself the past few days.

I am summing this up to my fear and my anxiety about the surgery talking to me and that it's comparable to cold feet before a wedding. I have never been hospitalized before and the closest thing to surgery I had was my wisdom teeth removed.

But at the SAME TIME I am SO EXCITED for this surgery. I am so excited to feel better and look better and move more and not be so self conscious about myself.

Did anyone else go through these emotions? How did you get your mind at ease? I think that I am going crazy!

WOW. Surgery date for me is 9/2... One week to go. And this post is everything that is running through my mind right now. EVERYTHING. Knowing that I'm not the only one who's thinking it is reassuring!!! Like you, I'm doing it, no matter what. No turning back. But that doesn't change what is going through my mind!!! I feel for your insecurities but I am so grateful that you've expressed them!!! You're not alone!! Luck!!

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What time are you schedule for. I'm glad mine is at 730 so I'm at hospital at 5am that way I'm in and set

I am scheduled for 7:45AM so we are in at the same time! I am also in at 5AM and first of the day. I'm so grateful for that so I don't have a lot of time to think about it.

Whereabouts do you live?

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What time are you schedule for. I'm glad mine is at 730 so I'm at hospital at 5am that way I'm in and set

I am scheduled for 7:45AM so we are in at the same time! I am also in at 5AM and first of the day. I'm so grateful for that so I don't have a lot of time to think about it.

Whereabouts do you live?

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I'm in NC

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