I'm one month preop and I am getting quite a few people telling me I am taking the easy way out. I think I would like to create a " elevator speech" with some good comebacks to that common statement. Any ideas? Thanks

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Try this, I use this all the time for situations where people comment on things that are really none of their business:

*look at them, confused*

*when they continue talking, suddenly look like you understand something *

"Ohhhh... I get it, you think I give a s h i t what you think. How silly/egotistical/self-righteous/retarded/stupid (choose insulting word that fits the person) of you!"

Then laugh and walk away.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Edited August 19, 20169 yr by Fredbear

Don't tell people you are having surgery and you won't have to come up with comebacks.

If people are saying this to you, they don't really care about you. Just cut them loose.

@@even11 Don't even respond - they're not worth it!

I don't have a problem telling anyone but you're that is inviting comments. I was just wondering how others have handled this. Thanks

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"Thank you for your concern."

I say "I'm sorry, did YOU have the surgery? Oh, no? Then how the hell would you know? " but I'm known for being a rather blunt person...

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I tend to take a non-verbal approach with idiots like that.

A deep breath.....inflated chest cavity.....cross my arms and give 'em a squinty eyed stare. A slight nod of the head back and forth is my clue to them not to push things further.

Some don't get it though.....they thrive on being stupid.

One....a younger upper manager at work (who's on the fast track for world domination with my employer)......kept on badgering me about my weight.

The last time he did it was at the salad bar in our cafeteria.

I had just finished a fast lunchtime workout in the gym and was grabbing a Protein loaded side salad from the bar. Minding my own bidness.....just trying to get what I needed.....grab and go.

So he comes over and asks me, "Well, well, well.....look who we have here. Salad huh? So, guy, what are you up to now ? What's your weight up to now ?"

He keeps on with this while getting my eggs and chicken chunks.

I should add at this point that he's one of those pencil necked nerdy types who thinks that cross country running is the only fitness that matters.

Again with the questions about my weight.

I turn to him....lean over so nobody else can hear and say, "Why don't you ask your wife what I weigh, Michale.....she's felt all of it".

Then I go back to my salad.

He slammed his dayplanner down on the counter and made an odd noise with his throat and walked off.

We have yet to speak again.

A little more to the story is that this guy is on an unprecedented career trajectory.....My boss reports to the person that reports to this guy.

His wife, who I've never met, is a saint of a woman. She's very active in their church and plays in the local symphony. They are puritans and live a clean life and are great family people.

I probably should've handled the situation differently....but I'd enough of his badgering.

Clearly he pursued the matter because I was asked by a member of HR about any "conversations" between us. I couldn't recall any real specifics and stuck with that. Seemed to satisfy them.

I'm probably screwed, but I'll certainly not be bothered by his stupidity again.....at least not in the area of my weight.

@Dub. That was the absolutely best comeback ever!! Love it!!

Try this, I use this all the time for situations where people comment on things that are really none of their business:

*look at them, confused*

*when they continue talking, suddenly look like you understand something *

"Ohhhh... I get it, you think I give a s h i t what you think. How silly/egotistical/self-righteous/retarded/stupid (choose insulting word that fits the person) of you!"

Then laugh and walk away.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Why in the world would you use the word "retarded" as an insult? That's seriously offensive.

LMAO... good one Dub! And well deserved!!!

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I simply look at people who say stupid things with a blank smile and say, "You probably don't realize how rude and/or offensive you sound, do you?". And then walk away...

@ Dub..

ROTFLMAO.. Score..

Stick to your story with HR.. And if asshat boy keeps it up report his ass for harassment. What you do and eat is none of his damn business. Someone needed to knock him down a peg.

Sadly makes you wonder how he treats his wife if he's a jerk to co-workers.

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This is why I chose to tell no one except for my wife of course. Most people that say stuff like this thinks it some sort of magic not realizing alot of hard work is still involved and just as easy the weight come off it could come back on just as easy if your reckless with your food choices and grazing all through the day.

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To be literal about the figurative - if you're in an elevator and someone asks you why you're taking the "easy way out" ask them why they're in the elevator since it's the easy way up. After all, taking the stairs would be the harder option, and it was the original one before the advent of the technology that made taking the elevator available, safe, and logical. Throughout their daily lives they use a myriad of tools / devices / technology for the sake of efficiency. Taking the "easy way out" is more sensible when it's available to you and delivers superior results to the longer, more cumbersome route. Something being harder doesn't mean it's smarter.

I really like that one Clementine!

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