I'm one month preop and I am getting quite a few people telling me I am taking the easy way out. I think I would like to create a " elevator speech" with some good comebacks to that common statement. Any ideas? Thanks

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I give great side-eye glares and eyebrow lifts. A good single brow lift combined with an unblinking stare shuts most idiots up. They want a verbal reaction so I refuse to give them one

Try this, I use this all the time for situations where people comment on things that are really none of their business:

*look at them, confused*

*when they continue talking, suddenly look like you understand something *

"Ohhhh... I get it, you think I give a s h i t what you think. How silly/egotistical/self-righteous/retarded/stupid (choose insulting word that fits the person) of you!"

Then laugh and walk away.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Why in the world would you use the word "retarded" as an insult? That's seriously offensive.

I agree

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To be literal about the figurative - if you're in an elevator and someone asks you why you're taking the "easy way out" ask them why they're in the elevator since it's the easy way up. After all, taking the stairs would be the harder option, and it was the original one before the advent of the technology that made taking the elevator available, safe, and logical. Throughout their daily lives they use a myriad of tools / devices / technology for the sake of efficiency. Taking the "easy way out" is more sensible when it's available to you and delivers superior results to the longer, more cumbersome route. Something being harder doesn't mean it's smarter.

Good analogy...

I chose not to tell people because they are so judgmental. They think it's the easy way out but it's a lifestyle change. Ur life will never be the same again

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@@even11,

LOL!! I have to agree with @@Fredbear! But assuming you’re trying not to make enemies, I guess you could ask them what they mean. Eventually, it might come out that they think you’re not dieting and working hard, and you can explain that they are.

Or, if you don’t feel like wasting your time conversing with rude people, you can just tell them that you don’t know about them, but you don’t feel as though eating 1,000 calories a day is easy.

Or, you could agree. What difference does it make?

Or, you could say, “Maybe, but it’s the only way I know. How did you lose 100 lbs?” (Because anyone who’s telling you this clearly hasn’t been in your position and lost 100 lbs.)

I’m sorry you (and all of us) have to deal with this. Of course we shouldn’t care what people think, but all but a lucky few of us do. No matter what you say, people will still probably be able to make you feel bad about your WLS choice. At least you can try to remind yourself that people who say things like this about WLS (besides being ignorant on the subject) would probably find something else to try to make you feel bad about even if you hadn’t gotten WLS.

@@Alex Brecher

You agree that using the word retarded is an appropriate insult? Surely you missed that part! Don't make me lecture you about that one!

:glare:

I always tell people that WLS is faster not easier. Tell them to try liquids only for weeks. Or better yet a big "get the eff out of my face".

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I asked someone, Are you a doctor?

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To be literal about the figurative - if you're in an elevator and someone asks you why you're taking the "easy way out" ask them why they're in the elevator since it's the easy way up. After all, taking the stairs would be the harder option, and it was the original one before the advent of the technology that made taking the elevator available, safe, and logical. Throughout their daily lives they use a myriad of tools / devices / technology for the sake of efficiency. Taking the "easy way out" is more sensible when it's available to you and delivers superior results to the longer, more cumbersome route. Something being harder doesn't mean it's smarter.

@clemintine sky, I like your way of thinking.

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"Thank you for your concern."

I really like this one!!

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Tell them this surgery is a tool to help you get back on track . Tools are what people use to help right

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Here's my fave general blanket statement, and one of the reasons why my nickname is "Salt," --

In the most singular California-girl-monotone you can possibly muster,

"If I wanted your opinion, I would have asked."

Period.

Then walk-off.

Another good one is "Get bent."

PS.

All the feedback here about not telling anyone about your surgery? I've been taking this route too, and it's been much, much easier on my brain. HR knows I'll be out later this year for "a surgery," my boss (a senior executive) knows it will be Bariatric-related. Otherwise my medical support group knows about it, and my medical team. Select family members know that I'm "working on my health."

All of my social weight-loss accounts are relatively anonymous, too.

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I don't know who will agree or disagree, but to me, the easy way out is doing nothing at all.

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It takes more courage to face our problems, than to take the easy way out.

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I have been really open about my surgery. Most people don't think I am big enough for it, as I am young, tall, and "only" was BMI 40. Anyone who has bought up concerns was informed that it took a lot of thinking and that I have decided this was the best decision for my health. I haven't gotten any "easy ways," but if I do and I like the person I plan a short explanation. If it's a random person who says something, I will thank them for their input and move on. People aren't worth the drama they try to stir up.

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