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I did my surgery last week 8/11/16 and going in to this I knew certain people wouldn't understand what a huge adjustment this would be.... I have been call lazy I was told this was taking the easy route and I really feel like the support isn't there from certain individuals and it's getting to me... My boyfriend is getting annoyed with me because he thinks I'm exaggerating when it comes to my pain and I haven spoken to my best friend since the surgery

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Unfortunately, that is how it is for some people. Just because you are ready for change doesn't mean that they are. You might lose some people along the way. Just remember your health and recovery are the most important.

It might be rough to lose people but in the end you will find out who really loves you.

You can always post here, there are lots of people going through the same thing.

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I had my sleeve on the 27th July. It's one of the hardest decisions and adjustments I've ever had to deal with.

You are not lazy you are positive and proactive. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Obesity is a life destroyer and killer., anyone who puts you down for making the decision to take back control of your life and health is simply a fool.

You are not alone many folks I have spoke to say they have lost old friends but found new ones along the way.

You will be feeling very vulnerable at the moment. Don't let it get you down. Ask your doctors if there are any bariatric surgery support groups near you. But if not there is always heaps of support here online...

Big hugs xox

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When I first seriously contemplated surgery, I thought the same thing-I worried that people would think I took the "easy" way out, too. I worried that for myself even. But having had surgery just this past week and beginning the journey months in advance to prepare me for what was to come- I've come to my senses and know this is no "easy" way out. It takes determination, real restraint (2 wk pre-op liquid diet) total commitment and there's hopefully no going back. What people don't understand, those that have not been to seminars & classes is that this is no quick fix. Surgery is a tool. We still have to do the work just like any other person who wants to diet and exercise. Sometimes the ones offering care to us aren't equipped to be long term nurses. That's ok. Just ignore that and say thank you for what they've done & are doing. To the ones who offer no support-you don't need that negativity in your life. These are probably the same ones who kept telling you how you needed to do something about the weight then they shame you for actually doing it. You keep remembering the reasons why you began your journey and don't look back. Attend a support group, find new supportive friends. Best wishes!

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