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Ooops, sent a PM to a wrong person.

@@Daja

You just got a PM from me, thinking it was you in the first post

Please, don't be afraid to ask questions.

Sometimes, us "older" ones get fed up with the bad treatment many of us get, and the whole kinder-garden style wars, fights, judgements, name calling etc.

I nearly walked out yesterday, after a Newbie called me a "Bully"

As I can only speak for myself though, I am happy to help/support a mature person, who is willing to follow their surgeons'/bariatric teams instructions. Otherwise, I ignore the trouble makers, as Life is Too Short!

And of course, I am not perfect, I made mistakes, but they were not life threatening, and lot further down post op.

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Dear Vets, please don't leave us! Sure, I may be 7 months post op, but I still want and need your help! I know some people can be rude and respond to criticism poorly, but there are so many of us who deeply value your input!

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I've been aware that Kindle hasn't been around for some time and, sheesh, now am seeing her farewell for the first time. Shall I speak about her or to her at this late date?

Kindle, you're good. Your comments were always well-considered, well-written and valuable. While your reason for leaving is most understandable, I wish you'd stayed and rebudgeted your expenditure of energy. It's not always easy to stick with the resolution, but it gets easier. If not that, there are vacations. I do hope you'll show up again.

All good wishes to you.

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I've been aware that Kindle hasn't been around for some time and, sheesh, now am seeing her farewell for the first time. Shall I speak about her or to her at this late date?

Kindle, you're good. Your comments were always well-considered, well-written and valuable. While your reason for leaving is most understandable, I wish you'd stayed and rebudgeted your expenditure of energy. It's not always easy to stick with the resolution, but it gets easier. If not that, there are vacations. I do hope you'll show up again.

All good wishes to you.

Hey stranger. I was lying here, not able to sleep so thought I'd check out the latest on BP. I did post on here about a month ago. It was my three year surgiversary and I wanted to give an update.....

http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/384092-three-years-and-a-lifetime-later/

Things have been going fabulous for me over the last month or so, which is a complete turnaround from the past year and a half. The date I went on in November has evolved into a pretty serious relationship. Something I never expected or was even looking for.

I gotta say, I don't miss the BP drama, But I may check back from time to time and just stay away from the craziness and stupidity. I do enjoy hearing how all the vets are doing. As well as some of the former newbies that are all "grown up" now :)

Hope all is well with you.

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Kindle, nice to have you back, even if it is only from time to time.

I am glad everything is going well in your life.

Unfortunately the drama at BP is common at other websites too. Do not let that deter you from posting here.

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I consider myself a newbie as I just got sleeved in December. I find it so disappointing that so many vets are stepping out because some newbies are not receptive. That being said, I haven't read all the posts people are referring to and I assume their was some vitriol spewed at the vets which I can only imagine is hard to tolerate. It's just sad for folks like me who aren't trying to eat bacon or other inappropriate foods 1 week post op. I've dieted my whole life and would like this surgery to be the life change I need. I could really use all the valuable insight that the vets have.

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You can't beat experience...I am gutted were missing out on their support! I'm nearly 4 weeks post op (gastric bypass) and not all of us disrespect or underestimate our vets support

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Nice to see veteran kindle doing well. I adore seeing great successful stories ... as we know the boards are riddled with inconsistencies, non compliance and sometimes just failures of all sorts.

I take solace in seeing others still on board with being conscious (almost) everyday and continuing to work our individual program

Just a hurrah for those still around. We have lost many by the wayside. Heck. I miss Carolina girl and her no nonsense!

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Nice to see veteran kindle doing well. I adore seeing great successful stories ... as we know the boards are riddled with inconsistencies, non compliance and sometimes just failures of all sorts.

I take solace in seeing others still on board with being conscious (almost) everyday and continuing to work our individual program

Just a hurrah for those still around. We have lost many by the wayside. Heck. I miss Carolina girl and her no nonsense!

I miss her too Julie.

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