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Hi everyone. I was banded on 8-13-07 and then banded again on 8-17-07 because the original band had slipped due to herniation in the back side of my stomach. I was taken in for emergency surgery on the 17th and then released late on the 18th. I have been home since then and so far so good.<br /> <br /> My problem is that I keep having these moments and my mom says that it's due to the anesthesia that I had, twice that is. My mom had bypass and is almost 18 months out. She doesn't remember exact what she went through because it was a while ago and also because she only had surgery once. But I keep wondering if I have done the right thing. I know that it will be great to get the excess weight off and be healthy. But it scares me that I may fail at this and I may get to my goal and then gain it all back. Also, where I live, the lapband surgeon that I had is the only one that will work with me because she is the one that has done all of my lap band work. So I know that I need to stay in the area. But what happens if she retires or whatever and then I have to find another surgeon. I would really rather stay with her, but people don't live forever. And this is a huge lifelong change. And what if my band slips again and I have to get it taken off???? It's already slipped once and the fact that it can slip again, at any time, scares me to death. I don't think that my surgeon would do it again. I'm only 22 and I'm freaking out about this. Please help.<img src="http://www.LapBandTalk.com/images/smilies/help.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Help" smilieid="256" class="inlineimg" />

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Hi...I had surgery 8-8. I have had several days that I wondered if I had made the right decision and what I have done?? As time goes on more and more doctors will have to become educated on the band. There are getting to be too many people that are getting it. I suspect in your area there will be more doctors that do the surgery in time. Take it a day at a time, thats what I had to tell myself the first few days especially. Thats all you can do. Take care and good luck.

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Hi Shleb, sorry to hear that you're worrying a lot. It would be scary to think you had a "lifelong" procedure when you're only 22. But hey, it's done right? Live for today, keep doing the next right thing in this band journey and let the future take care of itself. By the time you're my age they'll probably have finally invented the "magic pill" and you can get unbanded and take a pill and get skinny! But for today, this day and time in your life - this is the best thing available. Just knowing you had banding twice already tells me that you're not a quitter; you're anxious but determined. You go girl! Put those fears to rest, you're STRONG, you're a winner - now get this weight off and go live that LIFE you're waiting to live!

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Shleb---I tend to worry about things alot as you seem to be doing. Or maybe I should say that I used to worry too much. I have finally decided that worry does not change a thing. Right now, you need to focus on day to day. Do not worry about what is down the line. You made the right decision on getting the band and then getting it fixed when it slipped. Just think about where you will be a year from now and compare to where you would be a year from now if you had not had it fixed. In a hundred years, you would be like me; 58 and just now getting a band. Hang in there. Everything will be fine, I promise.

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