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OzRoo    1,492

OzRoo
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Number 14, ask for help ....

I finally started using this one. It was so hard for me to actually ask for help, yet I was always there whenever anyone else needed help.

I finally realised that I too need and deserve help, at times....

Thank you @@Inner Surfer Girl,

Great reading xxx

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Daisee68    2,493

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This is a great list! Thank you for sharing. I am going to bookmark it so I can come back to it when I am having "one of those days!" :)

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becomingmandikaye    262

becomingmandikaye
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I will definitely take a mental health day from work if I'm struggling. Sometimes that's the best thing I can do for myself.

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The Candidate    3,215

The Candidate
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A lot of great techniques - thanks fior sharing!

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melyssafaye    181

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Thanks for this. I really needed to find something like that today.

I've been so depressed lately it's almost paralyzing.

I think it has a lot to do with the loss of comfort. Small things you do to make yourself feel better. Like go out to dinner with friends, have a soda, go shopping or whatever.

I can go out, but the reward isn't the same. I'm desperate for clothes, especially now that the seasons are changing. I'm in a size 8 or 10 now. Nothing from last year fits and I'm still losing, so no point in buying clothes unless I need them for something specific.

I used to have lovely clothes that fit me well and made me feel pretty. I'm a vintage clothing collector, so my wardrobe was carefully cultivated over decades. I had been the same size for over 20 years.

Now, nothing fits. No point in buying lovely dresses. I want the comfort I used to get from curling up with a pint of ice cream. But, I know that it would be no consolation now.

I'm feeling sorry for myself. I know that. It's nice to think of other ways to find comfort until I feel more like myself.

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melyssafaye    181

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http://www.upworthy.com/101-self-care-suggestions-for-when-it-all-feels-like-too-much

It seems the problem is with the mobile app. Just google 101 ways to care for yourself, it's the first result

OR on iPhone, click link then touch the icon at bottom that is square with and arrow. Open in Safari

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Inner Surfer Girl    12,015

Inner Surfer Girl
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Thank you...I'll try that. Sometimes these apps can be so temperamental

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What I meant is that even with Google, the article isn't loading on the website. I don't think it's this app, I think it is a problem with the original link/website.

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ginabee38    91

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Thank you...I'll try that. Sometimes these apps can be so temperamental

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What I meant is that even with Google, the article isn't loading on the website. I don't think it's this app, I think it is a problem with the original link/website.
Yeah, I think you're right. I had the same issue...just a blank screen, for the most part.

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cbonet    336

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I got it. Thank you for sharing

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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