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It has been awhile since I have written a What Y'all Think. I have had a few ideas that I wanted to to explore, but then This American Life came through for me. This weeks episode of TAL was about being fat and according to to true TAL style they approached the topic from a few different angles. Bariatric surgery was not covered in the broadcast. It mostly centered around fat acceptance.

If you have the time I would encourage you to have a listen. It is more than an hour in length and it does include profanity, so keep those things in mind.

One of my motivating factors for having surgery was with the hope I would get married. I do not think fat people, if I may use that term, are necessarily ugly. Nor do I think thin people are necessarily beautiful. However, women of a more normal size have a higher chance of getting married. We may not like that. It paints men in an unflattering light, but it is true. I know that I have much to offer any man, but if my weight is a hindrance to that then perhaps I need to make a change and so I did by have VSG six months ago. I am sharing this because the idea of women losing weight to increase their chances of getting married is covered in the broadcast.

As always, let me know your thoughts.

http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/589/tell-me-im-fat

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@@1Cor2:9 I wonder if it is more to do with a boost of confidence after losing weight then it is your actual size/weight making you more attractive (and leading to marriage).

Ha, I think it is complex affair. The idea that only confident people have life partners is false. There are plenty of lo self esteem people running around who are married. One's confidence should not be rooted in one's appearance. I am somebody and have worth independent of my present size. ;)

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@@1Cor2:9 I wonder if it is more to do with a boost of confidence after losing weight then it is your actual size/weight making you more attractive (and leading to marriage).

Ha, I think it is complex affair. The idea that only confident people have life partners is false. There are plenty of lo self esteem people running around who are married. One's confidence should not be rooted in one's appearance. I am somebody and have worth independent of my present size. ;)

What holds you back from being in a committed relationship then?

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@@1Cor2:9 I wonder if it is more to do with a boost of confidence after losing weight then it is your actual size/weight making you more attractive (and leading to marriage).

Ha, I think it is complex affair. The idea that only confident people have life partners is false. There are plenty of lo self esteem people running around who are married. One's confidence should not be rooted in one's appearance. I am somebody and have worth independent of my present size. ;)
What holds you back from being in a committed relationship then?

I think we are getting a little far from the original topic. I posted about This American Life broadcast that to be frank was about fat people. This episode covered many topics. Did you have a chance to listen to it? If so what did you think?

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Curious...women prefer fat men?

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