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jenmcd623    76

jenmcd623
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I was sleeved on 3/7/16. Since then I have lost 78 pounds. I went from a size 30 pants to currently 22/24 and some 26. I notice a difference because of the way clothes fit, and I can see a small change in my neck, but I don't really see the weight difference. I think it's because I still feel like the old me, and still see her looking back in a mirror. Everyone tells me I am doing amazing and that I look good, but for the most part, I really don't feel different. Am I the only one feeling this way? Does it get better? I know I feel better, I have a ton more energy, but I feel like I am being my own worst enemy. The picture on the left is taken last summer and the picture on the right was taken Mother's Day.

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Daisee68    2,493

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You look great and are doing an awesome job! It takes a while for us to see the changes in ourself. I will be 1 year post-op on Saturday and am down 120 pounds since surgery (146 total) and I am just now really realizing the difference. Keep up with the pictures. That will help. Take your measurements. And every once in a while try on the largest pair of pants (or a dress) you had. (I only kept one thing - my size 28 jeans.). I only put them on maybe 6 weeks ago and I think that is when I finally realized how far I had come.

Keep up the great work!

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peaceout    273

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Everything @@Daisee68 said was spot on. Regular pictures and measurements will help quite a bit.

And you certainly aren't the only one going through this. I'm about 15 pounds from goal and some days when I look in the mirror, I still can't see the difference. I *know* that instead of my size 20's, I'm now wearing 8's and 10's, but man. It's taking a while for my brain to catch up.

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gowalking    10,790

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I was sleeved on 3/7/16. Since then I have lost 78 pounds. I went from a size 30 pants to currently 22/24 and some 26. I notice a difference because of the way clothes fit, and I can see a small change in my neck, but I don't really see the weight difference. I think it's because I still feel like the old me, and still see her looking back in a mirror. Everyone tells me I am doing amazing and that I look good, but for the most part, I really don't feel different. Am I the only one feeling this way? Does it get better? I know I feel better, I have a ton more energy, but I feel like I am being my own worst enemy. The picture on the left is taken last summer and the picture on the right was taken Mother's Day.

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I'm three and a half years post WLS and down 140 lbs. One year after surgery I was down 100 lbs. and couldn't recognize myself. I am not suggesting you need to, but I went into therapy. Two years later, I can say that I have been able to reconcile the new me with the old me. This is a process and it takes time for your head to catch up with your body. Sometimes we need help from a professional and sometimes we can do it on our own. The suggestions above are good ones. Oh, and it's very obvious from your picture that there is quite a difference. I also attached one of my before and after shots. I still look at them from time to time. Good luck. You are doing great.

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CSchulden    61

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You look gorgeous!!! Keep up the great work. You've done an outstanding job so far!

I know it's hard to look past how we used to look and embrace our new selves. I too went into therapy and it's helped me a great deal. I also weigh myself weekly and take monthly measurements. The rapid weight loss will slow down and that can become very discouraging. That's why, for me, the monthly measurements are helpful. I also try to buy myself one nice new article of clothing or get a massage or do something really nice for myself when I reach a self-set goal.

I was cleaning through my old "fat" clothes and put on a pair of shorts that were too tight on me last summer. Now, they are HUGE. Huge enough, that my 10 year old daughter fit into them with me. I keep them to remind myself of how far I've come. Try to find something that shows you just how far you've come in your journey.

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jane13    2,256

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@@jenmcd623 - try on some of the clothes you wore pre-op - that does it for me e-v-e-r-y-t-i-m-e.

Keep an outfit and really look at it....BIG DIFFERENCE! Measure yourself, if you haven't, and chart the inches lost :D

YOU look great!

jane

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jenmcd623    76

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Thank you everyone. I did keep one pair of jeans from before surgery. I will try them on tonight.

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catwoman7    11,277

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I have my husband take pictures every month on my surgery date. I can't tell the difference from one month to the next, but if I compare pictures now to pictures four months ago - or eight months ago - or a year ago - I can see a huge difference.

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HanSolo1977    261

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I was sleeved on 3/7/16. Since then I have lost 78 pounds. I went from a size 30 pants to currently 22/24 and some 26. I notice a difference because of the way clothes fit, and I can see a small change in my neck, but I don't really see the weight difference. I think it's because I still feel like the old me, and still see her looking back in a mirror. Everyone tells me I am doing amazing and that I look good, but for the most part, I really don't feel different. Am I the only one feeling this way? Does it get better? I know I feel better, I have a ton more energy, but I feel like I am being my own worst enemy. The picture on the left is taken last summer and the picture on the right was taken Mother's Day.

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You look great... @@gowalking has some good advice.

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gina171    626

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You look VERY different!!!! I think you look terrific, there's a serious amount of progress!!!!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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