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I'am just about 6months post op and my mental health as slowly been on the decline. My anxiety is really bad with borderline panic attacks daily. I'am not sure if the surgery triggered this but i never had an issue prior.

Talk to your PCP. It's unusual for the weight loss to trigger this at 6 months but you never know. No one should feel the need to live with anxiety - there are meds that will help and therapy is good at anytime!

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I'am just about 6months post op and my mental health as slowly been on the decline. My anxiety is really bad with borderline panic attacks daily. I'am not sure if the surgery triggered this but i never had an issue prior.

Talk to your PCP. It's unusual for the weight loss to trigger this at 6 months but you never know. No one should feel the need to live with anxiety - there are meds that will help and therapy is good at anytime!

I am looking into seeing a therapist.

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Hi there

Im actually experiencing alot of depression too. im 4 weeks out and im starting on normal foods. After the surgery i honestly felt so much regret. I know my diet was off and this was new but i still feel depression ever day at some point. I never had these feelings before and they are very mixed Highs and lows.

I would regret i did the surgery, my mind would linger on how i should have dieted and did it the old fashion way, only my husband knows i did this but i feel ashamed that i took this root, its feels like i cheated and im dishonest. I was a yoyo dieter and i couldn't keep my weight in check,l i did this for my future health but i wish i never did it. Im losing weight slowly, i have a lower bmi so thats bound to happen and Im ok with that.

I never once thought i would have these emotions. Every night my mind just goes over and over silly things, and the same things, regrets, my life is forever changed, permanently changed, health issues ( if any come up) eating tiny portions in public making me self conscious. Ashamed and more

I don't feel grateful at all, mostly guilt and regret. My regular doctor advised me not to do it since i had low bmi and said is a big mistake and that i should go the natural route. That comes in my head all the time.

I paid myself for this and i think i might need to see a counselor to vent but i feel like a mess.

Im praying i over come this with time, i don't want it to get worse.

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Yes. I had my surgery done on May 11th and I've only now recently started to feel depressed. I'm currently on Stage 3 of my diet, which is soft foods and it is extremely demoralizing. Nearly everything I try (that I am able to) has affected me negatively. I've felt nauseous, uncomfortable, and anxious for several hours after trying something. This is really starting to get to me, especially to the point where I feel like I made the biggest mistake of my life. Before the surgery, NOTHING affected me, I wasn't allergic to anything, and I could try something and know I would not be in for 4 or 5 hours of pain. Now? I am scared to eat something that isn't turkey breast, whole wheat Pasta, or a banana. I miss my chicken caesar salads, my grilled cheese, but most of all, I miss my air-popped popcorn. Man, I really want my popcorn back.

I've tried to talk to my family about how I am feeling, but they dismiss it and tell me to "oh well". It's really frustrating to be around them, watching them eat regular foods and I am nibbling on something that isn't what I want.

I made the choice to get the surgery. I accepted that something needed to be done about my life, and that I needed serious help. But it is one thing to know about the changes and limitations, and to actually experience them. I probably wouldn't have gotten the surgery had I know exactly how I would feel a month afterwards. I just want to be able to eat a salad again. To be able to make myself a sandwich with cheese (as of right now, cheese and other dairy products cause me discomfort and irritable bowel). I really just want to be able to have my popcorn as a snack again.

I wake up every day, sad, knowing that my Breakfast shake is going to make me feel sick for a few hours. Knowing that my lunch is going to be a slice of turkey breast and some broth, which will also be my dinner.

No one I've spoke to warned me about this part.

Will it get better? Will I ever be able to have variety again without getting sick?

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Hi there

Im actually experiencing alot of depression too. im 4 weeks out and im starting on normal foods. After the surgery i honestly felt so much regret. I know my diet was off and this was new but i still feel depression ever day at some point. I never had these feelings before and they are very mixed Highs and lows.

I would regret i did the surgery, my mind would linger on how i should have dieted and did it the old fashion way, only my husband knows i did this but i feel ashamed that i took this root, its feels like i cheated and im dishonest. I was a yoyo dieter and i couldn't keep my weight in check,l i did this for my future health but i wish i never did it. Im losing weight slowly, i have a lower bmi so thats bound to happen and Im ok with that.

I never once thought i would have these emotions. Every night my mind just goes over and over silly things, and the same things, regrets, my life is forever changed, permanently changed, health issues ( if any come up) eating tiny portions in public making me self conscious. Ashamed and more

I don't feel grateful at all, mostly guilt and regret. My regular doctor advised me not to do it since i had low bmi and said is a big mistake and that i should go the natural route. That comes in my head all the time.

I paid myself for this and i think i might need to see a counselor to vent but i feel like a mess.

Im praying i over come this with time, i don't want it to get worse.

Im 4 weeks out too and posted about this issue too, just remember that you thought this out when u were emotionally stable and u concluded that it is the best way to go. Trust me it gets better

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Thanks for your words. I know going in my intentions were of sound mind your so right.

i remind myself this all the time along with all the other possible benefits. However i know im mentally off. I know it. I cry at everything, iv lost my appetite. Feeling an all time low. Its been more prevalent in the last few days and my husband sees it too. I think i might need to see someone. Maybe its a mental imbalance?

Im praying so hard it passes. 4weeks in its gradually gotten worse, and this weekend was my lowest.

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