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Maybe I'm just burnt out from all the research or frustrated with all the waiting (my insurance requirements were met in mid- Feb and I'm still waiting) but I'm really feeling down. I'm struggling to get going with an exercise program and sticking to a low carb diet and am afraid I will gain back everything I've lost if they don't put me on the pre-op diet soon (it was postponed until we can set a date for surgery). Then again maybe I just love food too much and am scared of losing it. Is this normal to feel this way? I hear/read about people who are so excited to have surgery. That's not me. I'm dreading some of the possible complications/outcomes even though I know it's my best chance for a healthier, happier life.

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I think most people have doubts - not just right before but also right after surgery. I know I did. Hang in there! Perhaps see a therapist that specializes with bariatric patients can help you talk it out?

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When is your surgery scheduled?

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They just submitted it to insurance so no date yet.

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I went into this process kicking and screaming. I got the band because I was close to going into a wheelchair. I did not want to give up my food and couldn't imagine my life without eating to excess.

Well...I found out that as it says in my signature, living life in a normal sized body is better than any food out there. The quality of my life has improved 1,000%. I can walk again...no cane, no wheelchair...no nothing. I can do practically everything I used to and am taking advantage of all that life offers.

Don't worry that you are depressed or even scared about life after WLS. Once you see the benefits, you won't believe that you had doubts and fears at one time.

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Relax, the surgery was the starting gate for me. And it wasn't that difficult to make all the needed adjustments then.

Don't fret the waiting period. ;)

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I too became overwhelmed, frustrated and somewhat depressed during the waiting period as well. I decided to close the book on the my research and sit back to take a look at my life as if I were an outsider. I increased my therapy to once a week and tackled the reasons why I turned to food in the first place. After about a month off I was ready to begin again, refreshed and excited. I think sometimes we can research something so much that it begins to scare us. After surgery you will be amazed at the new perspective you will have. I felt as if a "light switch" was turned on, I can't explain well in words. Hang in there, take a deep breath...you can do this!

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Thank you all for the support. It means a lot. I have been seeing a therapist and hopefully I will work through all my food issues.

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I know exactly what you're going through. I also met all my insurance requirements in February (6 month diet) and I am still waiting for my surgeons office to submit my paperwork to my insurance (thats a whole other story). They finally gave me a tentative surgery date so that I would quit calling them. Its beyond frustrating, and I am ashamed to admit that it causes me to want to turn to old habits. A couple times I have even battled this ugly inner demon that wants to chock this up as a sign and resign to being fat.

I did feel a little validated when I read an article the other day about junk food being just as addictive as drugs and nicotine. It talked about how the chemicals in sugary foods hinder our dopamine functioning, which is the reward system in our brain. When we initially eat a sugary food, it floods our brain with a huge amount of dopamine and other feel-good chemicals which overwhelms our dopamine receptors, and so our brain eliminates the extra dopamine receptors to balance everything back out. So overtime, like drugs, it takes more and more of said sugary foods to feel the same amount as that initial time. Heres the article: https://authoritynutrition.com/how-food-addiction-works/

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They just submitted it to insurance so no date yet.

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So in about a month...schedule ASAP and get prepared.Your surgeon should give you a target date.Schedule you so once you get approval you are set.Get it done as soon as possible....your journey has begun...

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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