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Love Life After Gastric Bypass

Kimmey16

By Kimmey16, in Gastric Bypass Surgery Forums

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Kimmey16    54

Kimmey16
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This may sound like a touching topic but I have always had a problem when it comes to dating. Don't get me wrong I have a daughter and I have had boyfriends in my past but no one really wanted to make a commitment. I take it because I have always been overweight.

High school I never had a prom date, actually I have never been on a date with a guy just me and him. I feel that one of my friends I have had since Jr high and he has always been here but never wanted to commit. My child father I was with him for 13 years but there was a lot of infidelity..

So like every other human being in the world as I am on my journey I would like the chance to finally go out on a date, finally settle down and feel real love, I would like the chance to finally walk down the aisle..

Give me you input on how your love life changed..

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Since I was young, there has been a significant change in the dating habits. I think in the old days, a boy and a girl would go out to eat dinner or a movie. Today many times the norm is more like a group date where several boys and girls get together and go someplace and have a good time. It's like a shared date.

I think some dating has even evolved to electronic hook-ups. There are apps where you enter your profile and your phone enters your GPS location. And someone who wants to hook up just gets an alert when you are geographically near each other, looks over your profile, and if he likes what he sees, sends you a message.

I am old school. Been married for over 40 years and very happy. I corresponded with a girl on the other side of the world with someone at each side to translate the letters. Then after a year, I went and met her. After 5 weeks I proposed to her using a language dictionary. So it was a grand adventure and well worth it. So love can be found in the most unusual places and in strange ways.

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Kimmey16    54

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Since I was young, there has been a significant change in the dating habits. I think in the old days, a boy and a girl would go out to eat dinner or a movie. Today many times the norm is more like a group date where several boys and girls get together and go someplace and have a good time. It's like a shared date.

I think some dating has even evolved to electronic hook-ups. There are apps where you enter your profile and your phone enters your GPS location. And someone who wants to hook up just gets an alert when you are geographically near each other, looks over your profile, and if he likes what he sees, sends you a message.

I am old school. Been married for over 40 years and very happy. I corresponded with a girl on the other side of the world with someone at each side to translate the letters. Then after a year, I went and met her. After 5 weeks I proposed to her using a language dictionary. So it was a grand adventure and well worth it. So love can be found in the most unusual places and in strange ways.

That's is so neat... Yea you right it's more group dating. I'm personally not ready to date but I was just wondering if people noticed a different with being more attractive after surgery..

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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