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Thank you choicemun, this all have been a very big mental game and a lot of the time I feel like I am losing at it. I think that some day we both will get there. I also completely get, just learning that you are a food addict. I never thought that was me, that I just liked what I liked and was that. Now I find myself wanting to do anything for a cheeseburger lol

Thanks and take care

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I am 8 days post op and I have the same feelings, I was crying last night telling my husband why did I do it?why didn't he stop me?. I knew at the time of doing this I did it for the right reasons but know I can't seem to remember, all I can think about is the foods I can't have again or I think I can never have and the feeling of joy food brought me. When ever I say that out loud I realize how much of a food addiction I have and how the mental game is going to be harder then I ever thought.

To the point where today I tried to eat a McDonald's burger told myself if I chew for a while it will be okay, until my sleeve said umm I don't think so. How sad is that? So you are not lone far from it! hopefully the day will come where we can both say it was all Worth it.

Good luck to you.

I'm the same way. I tried to eat some of my baby's grilled cheese yesterday. Didn't go so well. Lol. It's amazing, been faced with this addiction head on, it's unnerving. It's a struggle.

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@@Violetsrblue lol isn't it funny what our minds tell us is okay to do when we know is not. The struggle is Beyond real. I keep thinking I am still in control of my body but my sleeve is Proving me wrong, letting me know to take several seats back lol. So I better start listening.

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I had some "buyer's remorse" for the first few weeks after surgery. Then, when I realized that I was actually losing weight, I got over that (mostly).

I am now almost two years post-op and am 119 lbs lighter than at my highest weight. I have a normal range BMI, and I am able to buy and wear fun clothes. I feel amazing and am no longer headed down a path of poor health like my parents.

Even with all of those successes, I still occasionally "miss" comforting myself with food. food was my drug. I was addicted. I will always be in recovery. I have had enough successes now that I can see that, but sometimes the regrets are still there bc it is so different from the way everyone else around me eats and lives.

So, buyer's remorse is common. Most of the time my only regret is that I didn't have the surgery sooner. But every now and again I miss the seemingly easy act of eating to solve almost any problem.

You are not alone.

If you are anything like me, those feelings will come and go.

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I am 7 days post op and I am questioning myself too.. I don't know how much longer I can take this.. The Protein is disgusting no matter how I try to mix it and I'm having trouble getting it in just because I don't like it. I can drink Water, broth and eat Jello fine it's the nasty protein.. I ask myself everyday so far why I did this any suggestions how else to get my Protein in?!?

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Hi all,

My surgery date was 3.16.16 and it definitely a hard process that I underestimated. I never had thoughts of backing out before the surgery but know that I am just over 3 weeks out I feel regret at time. The way things feel right now, I will never be able to have a "normal" meal ever again. I think I am starting to get a but depressed. A lot to do with a single and live alone, I have been back home by myself for just over a week and its hard. Is anyone else having/had feelings or regret or depression post surgery and if so what did you do or doing?

Thanks

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Hi Zora, I am 8 days post SIPS and I know exactly how you feel. I feel lonely and isolated. We live in an EATING and DRINKING society. I spent the day yesterday planning runny Beans meals, Protein drinks and Greek yogurt meals (totalling 75 grade protein!) I wanted to go out to Joe's Crabs hack with my man but realized that is no longer a reality for us AT THIS TIME. Surgery date 4.5.16 weight 255.4. Weight this morning 246.2! Girl you know that is what this journey is all about. You WILL eat again. Hang on there..you are not alone.

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Zoes..I typed Zora by mistake

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Thank you Joyce. The logical part of my brain understands the long term goal. But the emotional part is freaking out. It doesn't help that I am not pretty much unable to eat and have to go to the infusion center to get fluids. ????

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I can't do the Protein either and I have made this very clear to my dietitian that it is just not going to happen. She has me drinking 2 cups of Fairlife milk a day(that is when it is possible for me to drink it due to nausea/vomiting). That is like 26 grams of Protein.

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Zoes

I am 7 days post op right now.

I had total buyers remorse in the hospital! It was a "what the hell have I done" moment. The discomfort and an overwhelming feeling of helplessness just did not sit well with me.

My tool for getting myself through those moments is to ask questions. Why did I do this? What is my goal? etc.

I find when I really think about the fact that I am doing this in an attempt to extend my life and deal with some diseases that are ultimately going to shorten my life it helps me fight through that overwhelming feeling of remorse.

It is tough I love food. I love to cook. I love to eat out. I am a genuine foodie, but the truth is that I was slowly killing myself a bite at a time.

I am trying to look at this whole process as a tool to give me some control over my relationship with food for the rest of my life. Rather than thinking I am never going to eat this or that again, I try to think when I eat that again it will be at a time of my choosing and in quantities within my control.

There is no doubt the emotional and mental side of this whole thing is going the hardest part.

You do what is best and right for you but realize you are only as alone as you want to be. There is always someone willing to listen and help.

Good Luck

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@@Breepad09 is it just the taste or consistency that you are having trouble with? I have switched to Syntrax nector Protein and I'm doing much better. I have never liked milk or anything that resembles it (ok maybe milkshakes). The nector tastes like crystal light, and I don't taste a protein taste to it. I get mine on Amazon but I think you can get it at some Vitamin stores. I also hear that Isopure is another choice but that it is really sweet and you have to drink a lot more to get the same amount of protein.

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@@Breepad09 is it just the taste or consistency that you are having trouble with? I have switched to Syntrax nector Protein and I'm doing much better. I have never liked milk or anything that resembles it (ok maybe milkshakes). The nector tastes like crystal light, and I don't taste a Protein taste to it. I get mine on Amazon but I think you can get it at some Vitamin stores. I also hear that Isopure is another choice but that it is really sweet and you have to drink a lot more to get the same amount of protein.

It's both the taste and consistently.. The only way I have been able to get any in is with the powders?utm_source=BariatricPal&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_campaign=CommentLink" target="_ad" data-id="1" >unjury unflavored in diet Snapple but I can't sip it all day

I will have to look into that be nector protein! Thanks

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I have struggled with depression although it seems to be lifting now from weeks 4-8. week 3 I was unreasonably angry. I really believe it was the hormone dump.

Hang in there, it gets better.

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Zoes

I am 7 days post op right now.

I had total buyers remorse in the hospital! It was a "what the hell have I done" moment. The discomfort and an overwhelming feeling of helplessness just did not sit well with me.

My tool for getting myself through those moments is to ask questions. Why did I do this? What is my goal? etc.

I find when I really think about the fact that I am doing this in an attempt to extend my life and deal with some diseases that are ultimately going to shorten my life it helps me fight through that overwhelming feeling of remorse.

It is tough I love food. I love to cook. I love to eat out. I am a genuine foodie, but the truth is that I was slowly killing myself a bite at a time.

I am trying to look at this whole process as a tool to give me some control over my relationship with food for the rest of my life. Rather than thinking I am never going to eat this or that again, I try to think when I eat that again it will be at a time of my choosing and in quantities within my control.

There is no doubt the emotional and mental side of this whole thing is going the hardest part.

You do what is best and right for you but realize you are only as alone as you want to be. There is always someone willing to listen and help.

Good Luck

LondonHawk,

Things are definitely going to different for the rest of my life and I know that I did this for all of the right reasons (for the most part) lol.

I am slowly working to look at the big picture. And it is getting a little bit easier as I am able to eat a bit without feeling nauseous. The last two days have been the first days I am excited that I can get in a few ounces in. I never thought I would be excited to eat such a small amount of food.

I really appreciate everyone here for listen and giving feed back! Xoxo

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