female only Fear of Losing

[AnA92212 577]

Youth is on your side, my friend. You are not vain. This is a life changing journey and to me, surgery is the sprinkles on the cupcake! I was obese/morbidly obese for the past 15 years. I have what my doctor calls "very minimal excess skin". You cannot tell I have excess skin unless I am naked. This is a good thing, but still.... I work really hard and I want a body that completely reflects that. A lot of things play into how much skin you will have: where you fat is now, how much muscle you have now, your age, etc. Don't be tempted to just do cardio after surgery. You need to do weights as well. I have been doing Body Pump twice a week since a month out from surgery. Even the weeks I didn't lose weight I would lose inches. From December to January I lost 6 pounds, but lost 12 inches. 5 of those were on my waist!

[ava32 48]

Oh I can totally understand where you are coming from. I happen to be extremely lucky in that I already have a relationship that I have been in for ten years so I am not hunting. Unfortunately He is ALOT older than me , so it is realistic that in five-ten years I will be single again.... Hopefully the men that will be in my prospective dating pool will be comfortable with my saggy baggy skin. I will have plastics eventually, but obviously the results won't come close to being as nice as women that had reconstruction earlier.

With that being said, I think if I were in your shoes I would get the best nutrition/ hydration exercise/ strength training I could afford. I would invest in good lotions and moisturizers to combat aging my face. And put the rest of my disposable income into an account for plastics. You might not even need it , but at least it will be there if you feel you do need it.

Great ideas! Do you have any specific recommendations? I.e. brands of lotions