female only RNY past October - Hormones gone & so is sex drive

[betrthnever 107]

OK I had RNY surgery back in October of this year, after having my band removed. When I lost my weight with the band my drive went through the roof so I was expecting the same thing to happen after this surgery (I gained my weight back). Before surgery my drive was normal, and the hot flashes were gone because i was wearing a hormone patch. Now, 45 pounds down, my hormones are nowhere to be found, and my drive is MIA as well! The patch no longer works. This sucks! I will see my Dr. next week. Any one had a similar experience and if so what did you do? Thanks!

[AvaFern 3,516]

I'm not entirely sure which surgery killed my libido, but something did. I didn't date for a long time, so I don't really have a frame of reference other than "spending time with myself", however this summer when I did end up dating someone for awhile, I put out everyday, sometimes multiple times a day (because he was 27 and I was 31 and it seemed like loads of sex was something I should be doing) but I really would have been good with a lot less. Also, I take Benadryl to sleep, which does this lovely drying out thing with mucus membranes which probably also contributed to not really enjoying things much. Overall, I'm 32 and for the most part I am sex-drive-dead, which was never the case before the sleeve. I also had three plastics procedures which took awhile to recover from so that may have contributed as well. I figure I'll worry about it if I ever date anyone again and until then it really isn't something I much think about one way or another.

I think I read on an earlier post that some women have found Welbutrin helpful for sexdrive. Also, from a medical perspective if your Iron levels are off, that can contribute to fatigue because your tissues aren't being oxygenated how they should be so all your vital organs get preference over others. Any Vitamin deficiency can contribute to a reduction in sex drive as well, so maybe have your doctor check out your blood work and hopefully any issues can be recognized and resolved and you will be back to feeling more like yourself.

[betrthnever 107]

Thank you! I am see my Dr next week. I'll ask for my stats to be checked :-)

[CowgirlJane 14,261]

It never occurred to me that benadryl contributed to drying out down there. I am going to stop taking it and see what happens.

[betrthnever 107]

But drying doesn't necessarily have anything to do with desire, tho. I have seen my OB/GYN and just waiting for blood test results. I love my weight loss but am missing my libido!