Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

I am 1000% glad that I have had the sleeve a week ago today. I know it is a big change and that it takes time. I was just talking to my husband about a trip we are taking and how the food I get at my favorite restaurant ever, which I used to eat in one sitting, would now easily take me a week to consume. I began sobbing because I didn't realize what a control food has on my life. I feel awful about that and at the same time, don't know how to get it out on my head and break the addiction.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Huge (((hugs))). I'm two days preop. I just had my last "solid" meal for a while. I feel the same way about food. I love it and hate it. It has a hold on me that seems impossible to break. I know the sleeve is not magic, but I sure hope it makes it a little easier to put down the fork.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I can understand how you are feeling blue because you will never eat the same way as you have in the past. food has been a part of our social lives for such a long time and it will take time to change the way we think about food. I have recently started running and fast walking at the gym and have met some supportive friends. A good workout and a shower after makes me feel so good. I hope you can start to find your new path as I have and find peace in your food funeral. The road has a Y in it now and you will need to choose which way to go. Are you on MyFitnessPal? If so my user name is retrievertrainer1. You can do this! :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have just made a Non-Scale victory about 2 months ago. I now consider food a source to live, not live to eat. I made this by discovering that when I take my daughter and 18 month old grandson out to eat, I get to enjoy feeding my grandson and spending time talking to everyone else instead of stuffing my face. This gives me the freedom to talk and enjoy everyone's company and no one says things like "are you sure your done". It is amazing to sit at the table and enjoy company than to be stuffing your face and not talking.

You are pretty early out but you will notice things after they happen a few times. Good luck and hang on it is a roll coaster of emotions the first few months!!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Sounds like it may be time to see a counselor or therapist to work through those issues. Don't suffer alone, find someone competent to help you work through theses issues.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It will take a little while, but food WILL lose the hold it has on you. It will be a strange feeling; it was for me. You're only a week out, your body is being flooded with hormones. Know that this is normal, and it too shall pass.

Hang in there!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I think your feelings are pretty normal this early out. I went on vacation at five weeks post op and one night I remember getting upset and crying because everyone was eating rice and I was not. I only had a few of these little upsets throughout this process. It gets so much easier as time passes.

Like others have posted- the food eventually loses its hold over you and you begin to view food as fuel.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

When I'm tempted to eat something that I COULD eat (as in its soft which is where I am now), and if I SHOULD eat it, it becomes easier when you calculate calories. I used to LOVE sweet and sour chicken over rice. I say USED to. Because its not worth the miles and miles I'd have to walk to work off those calories.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

When I'm tempted to eat something that I COULD eat (as in its soft which is where I am now), and if I SHOULD eat it, it becomes easier when you calculate calories. I used to LOVE sweet and sour chicken over rice. I say USED to. Because its not worth the miles and miles I'd have to walk to work off those calories.

That is so true. I can't believe the crap I used to eat. I feel so much better now!????

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have made a Pinterest board with recipes that will be sleeve friendly to get me excited about the next phase of this coming up soon. I am hoping that prepping for things that are allowed will get me excited about food in a positive, healthy way. Thanks for the feedback and support!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I was sleeved last Tuesday. I too had a blue day yesterday...thinking what the heck did I do. I too love food & the great meals with friends & family. I know, as everyone has been saying, I have so many great & amazing everyday things I will look more forward to than any meal could give me. Thank you everyone who posts! I am so grateful to have your encouragement & knowledge! I can't wait to be fit, run a half marathon, ski, & workout daily. I know moods will fluctuate but the future is too bright to stay in the blue for long! Hang in there!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

The Old = food controlled YOU

The New = YOU control food

Moral of this is:

Don't feel "BLUE" ... feel "NEW" :)

Happy new Year.

-RC-

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×