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PAM in MI - I am also a pre-bandster. I found out yesterday I am having mine done 8/14. Where are you located in MI?

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I am so glad I logged on today and read everyone's respones to feeling like a failure. I am 4 weeks post-op and I have gained 1 pound back. I feel hunger all the time, I am still not eating anything near what I used to eat before surgery. I know it won't come off over night, but I didn't expect to gain anything back either. I have lost 22 punds so far, includes pre-op diet. Thanks for the suggestion of staying off the scale. I find myself on there every morning... how depressing! No more, I will try only weighing myself every Monday morning.

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Pam, I live in Fenton. Where in Michigan do you live? Where is yur surgery going to be?

PAM in MI - I am also a pre-bandster. I found out yesterday I am having mine done 8/14. Where are you located in MI?

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I too am glad that I came across this thread. I have been thinking to myself "why the heck did I go thru all of this to not lose weight".

So far the only restriction I have is not being able to eat toast or hard rolls. Even after my first fill last Thursday (July 5, 07), I don't feel any restriction.

Thanks for letting me know that it will come.

Because of this thread, I write my first message.

Thanks again - I feel much better.

PS - how soon after the first fill do people get their second fill?

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My Doctor Tells Me To Come Back In 2 Weeks If I Feel No Restriction. So Call And See If You Can Come Back In.

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I can hear Marge Simpson saying....Jack's back woowee.... A quick question for anyone please.... Is it true that when the proper restriction is met you will not feel hungry. The surgeon tonight compared it to a permanently implanted Phen/Fen...but healthier ofcourse...

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True IT is all about the diet and excercise and no magical solution to weight loss. This is the healthiest way to do it. It forces you to make better choices and smaller portions. SLower weight loss is better but the main thing is stick to it,, increases your exercise and take it one day at a time to eat healthy. It will come off and if it doesnt, evaluate what your doing and see what changed you can make and then see if that moves the scale.. good luck to all of us,,, were all gonna be great losers!!!

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I have not been banded yet but this is not something that you are going to fail at. Try to be more positive. It seems a lot of people experience the same exact thing that you do. You should take the word failure out of your vocabulary. Seriously.

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Its 12:01 AM Sunday....I just found out Friday at 9 AM that I'm approved and am having surgery Thursday morning.

Ever since I got done pinching myself to be sure I wasn't dreaming, I've had this ball of dread in the pit of my stomach. I'm not at all afraid of surgery or anesthesia and I finally figured out what it is. I'm somewhat terrified of taking this drastic "last-ditch-effort" and still failing.

Thanks to all who posted. I KNOW I"m going to need to refer back to this thread many times, but right now, I feel like a load has been lifted and that knot in my gut is starting to unclench.

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I have felt the same. I was banded on July 6, 20007. I have lost 15 lbs. I think it's everybody around us who expect more quickly. Don't worry it will happen. Just remember losing it slowly is better than fast.

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FAILURE is Not an option.... We can do this, it will get easier I hope, I'm 3 weeks post and really have to watch, I could eat the south end of a north bound mule. At the end of the day I look back and say I really messed up today, and then I think, wow I had total for the whole day of maybe 3 cups of Protein and maybe some SF Jello maybe a V8 or 2 and some cottage cheese, and 8 glasses of Water. And then I think OMG I used to eat more than that between Breakfast and lunch add on dinner and then the grazzing after dinner, and the 14 diet cokes. See my point, yeal we might blow it sometimes but nothing compared what it used to be. Hang in there I know it will get better. You all are in my prayers.

Aloha

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It is so nice to see that we all at one time or another feel the same way. I've set mini-goals for myself and so far I'm on track to hit my second goal. I know they are pretty ambitious- 15lbs per month between fills but so far so good. I get my second fill on 8/16 and I'm so looking forward to it. Right now I feel so hungry between meals I want to eat everything around. I'm praying I'm getting closer to my optimal fill so I wont feel HUNGRY!!!! :) Thanks everyone- let's all keep losing because we are all winners!:)

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