I have approval and am finalizing the NUT and psych evals before meeting with the program director next month, then setting a date with the surgeon. Today changed my path... I've been processing a lot of information, and there are some things that don't sit well with me.

I went for the first of two psych appointments, and he starts telling me I'm getting the sleeve. When I mentioned that all of my support people have had long-term success with RNY, he demanded that I explain in detail why the RNY was better than the sleeve. If that wasn't enough, he called my husband in later. When my husband expressed that he has some apprehensions because he's worried about complications (I'm sure that's normal, especially expressing this to a psych doc - right?) the doc said my husband was ignorant and didn't know what he was talking about.

One of my Bari friends who went to another doc was told that the clinic I was attending (Sparrow Hospital in Lansing MI) has been pushing the sleeve on everyone because; a) it's easier on the surgeons; and allows surgeons to perform more surgeries in a day. I was processing that info and didn't put too much thought into it until today's visit.

I was headed down the homestretch as far as testing and approvals, even getting told I may have surgery as early as next month. Now I'm looking at a different program on the east side of the state. I am just very discouraged right now...

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I certainly wouldn't feel comfortable proceeding after being spoken to like that.

I didn't get the treatment you did for my first consultation, but I felt like they didn't care what I got as long as I signed on the dotted line. I dismissed the surgery completely. I then had a new surgeon recommended to me, and am completely comfortable.

Adding to the chorus. Go with your gut and switch. This is why I looked at 2 different programs before even starting the process. I wanted a program where I felt 100% comfortable. Sleeve or RNY, if you qualify and decide, it's your decision. The surgeon should not berate you or make you feel like a third grader delivering their first oral report. There are other ways to make sure you understand the process. My surgeon did my best friend's RNY. I told him this on our very first meeting. Despite this and my very high starting weight, he didn't try to talk me out of having the sleeve. He just made sure I knew it would take longer to lose. My concern is if the doctor is treating you this way now, what happens post-op when you need support? Get your medical records from this program. Chance are you may not have to repeat your testing since most insurance companies won't want to pay for the same test so soon. Either way it's worth it to be comfortable with the people who are performing major surgery on your body.