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Realized I have been having food funerals for 6 months



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I am so ashamed to even be typing this. TL;DR is that my surgery was originally scheduled for last April and through various setbacks with scheduling and an unsupportive family, my date has changed 3 times. It is now FINALLY set for October 19 and nothing is stopping me this time. HOWEVER, way back when it was in April, I decided to have a "food funeral" and do things "one last time" like going out to the chinese buffet etc. Well as you can guess, since it's been pushed back, without even really realizing this, I have been eating that way since April. So imagine why shock when I stepped on the scale at the Dr last week to see that I had gained nearly 25lbs since April. I am now at my heaviest weight EVER.

Please help me get my mind in focus and back on track. What is the best way I can start TODAY/Right now to get ready for my post surgery life (and kick start the weight loss etc.)

Thanks so much, you all are such an inspiration!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Oh honey, every meal was a food funeral for me. Don't be so hard on yourself. I was at my highest weight ever when I started the process and now I'm at the lowest I've been since college. Just start fresh right now and don't worry about what happened in the past. You got this!

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@ Sweetheart don't beat yourself up. We all have the same struggles, and set backs. Start anew today. We are all here to support eachother love. It took me some time to stop eating like crazy too. I was scheduled to have surgery initially on June 24th. My surgeon only required me to lose 10 lbs 1month before surgery. When I went to pre opt a few days before my surgery date, I had gained 5 lbs from overeating and having food funerals, and my surgeon cancelled my operation. I felt so ashamed and defeated but I regrouped, started focusing and lost the 10lbs. I needed to lose, and I'm now sceduled for Oct. 8th. ????

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I did my fair share of saying good bye to my old friends. The thing is, that with the sleeve you can still have those things you love right now, just not a whole lot of them. The truth is, for me, I don't want any of them. Ice cream, fried food, taco bell...absolutely no interest in them. I still love an extra crispy piece of bacon, so sometimes I have them. The sleeve is a wonderful tool, and hopefully you will experience the relief from craving most of the junk we ate before.

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Funny, I really wanted to have a food funeral but I have been so obsessed with this surgery, and a new way of eating that I find myself getting full really fast like I already had the surgery lol. However after quitting smoking I put on 5 pounds :(

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