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I just need to vent. So... my nail lady went to her country for two months for vacation. She comes back with a gift for me as she always does. She is a sweetie and is always doing nice stuff like this for me. Well... she brings me a T-shirt. It's very nice. The only thing is.. .it's a size XXX. She said she wanted to "make sure it fit". I thanked her graciously for it. When I got home... her comment really bothered me. I am 14 months out and have only loss about 60 pounds but I think there is a big difference in where I have come from. I am still 25 pounds from goal. Then the devil got on my shoulder. Now I am wondering... if I have failed? Am I not working hard enough? Not eating enough of the right stuff? Did the doctor make the right decision making my tummy a little bigger than most? Does everyone still see me as the big person... to the point where I look like I wear a XXX? I have been having these thoughts all weekend to the point where I worked out like a mad woman this morning. Ugh!!!

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Don't be too hard on yourself. I'll assume your nail tech is Asian. If so, they're usually really small and products outside of the U.S. generally run smaller! I would love to be at your weight right now. You may not be where you want to be, but you sure are not where you used to be....or maybe you would have been heavier. Give yourself the credit you deserve and keep up the good work!

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I agree, you have made amazing progress. Don't let one nail tech sway you.

I would LOVE to be your weight right now.

Keep up the good work.

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If you worry about what someone else thinks you look like then you be a basket case. All I am concerned with is getting to goal weight and to hell with what anyone else thinks but my surgeon. We didn't embark on this Quest to be "Victoria Secret" models, we did it to get healthy, living longer & live free of the boundaries weight put on us. Use the gift as a over shirt when you go to the beach or pool???????????? Keep up the great work

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I agree Asian sizes run tiny. My son's friend bought him a men's large shirt in Nepal. It fits him perfectly. My son is 5'6", and weighs 140. He wears a men's small here.

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yeah cloths in foreign countries run smaller gennerally because the people are smaller. americans also do a thing called vanity sizing where a regular size out side the us is twice as big in side the us but is listed at the same size

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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