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I just turned 55 and am having RNY In 10 days. Wow that feels weird to say!

Really glad you started this post. I hope to hear from more people with long term success. Went to my local support group this week and every single person there has gained back enough weight to be back in the "obese" category makes me wonder if I'm just embarking g on another "diet" that will fail in the long run.

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I am finally approved ...revision surgery at 51!!!!!

December 28th is the date.....yay!!!!

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Blogs and video journeys online that give you something. It's not the same as sharing face to face but it's something. You can start venturing out of the house, even if it's just going to the mall and sitting on the bench watching people walk by.

Journaling, really now, now can help to keep track of how you are feeling and dealing.... coping with your change. People get so weirder about you not being the obese person... they see you improving the quality of your life which makes them have to reevaluate their selves... scarier and it will emphasis their fears, this a type of retaliation to you.

Try to stay clear of all that you can. Your expectation for you is one thing and theirs are different. I'm there now too for people I work with and family members. Do not slide back and gain to make them feel better. Be you and take it one step at a time. Hope this helps, and remember to feel instead of using foo skills gather no dust nor make you gain. These are things to do if you a support group in person, and or maybe some one medical to talk too, but better if they understand Bariatric life and changes face by bariatric people like you. Best wishes too.

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Hello fellow fabulous 50's! What a great group of people. I had RNY on 11/17/15. So far, so good. I am on semi soft foods and still figuring out what I can and can't eat. Also still struggling with not much of an appetite, and having guilt when I do eat. I guess that is normal at this point.

My next concern is going to be the long term. When I can basically eat anything, but I am concerned I will! I would hate to gain wait before I even lose it. I guess after dieting for 30 years, losing and then gaining it all back, dozens of times, it is ingrained in me to worry about that. Fortunately, my husband has been so supportive and patient with me through it all.

Any seasoned WLSers out there who can provide guidance on the daily diet, I would appreciate it. I have no clue. The suggested menu from the Nut, has mostly things I would never eat, RNY or not.

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A slow loser is still a loser! And in here we are all proud to be losers!

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I'm 54. Wt:223 (5'2") Started my journey this past week with my first appt. Still deciding between the RNY GB and the VGS. Surgeon felt either one would be appropriate for me. 3 months pre op Diet required. I don't think the good health, both physical and mental that comes with WLS should be the purview of only the younger generation.

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I had my surgery at 51...this is my new beginning.

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I'm 55 and having surgery tomorrow bypass at 9am. I'm very excited to start the next chapter of my life!

Good Luck!Yes indeed, a new beginning.

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You will do great. I'm 58 and had mine in May. The nurses told me that I was the oldest patient that day and was the only one to go home the next day! I have been a slow loser yet I must say that it slowly adds up. I have lost almost 100 pounds and feel so much younger! I can't believe it when I read that people lose 75 pounds in five months, etc. I think they are very young and must exercise hours and hours a day! ( Yes, I am a little envious!) I just think of the turtle and the hare! Don't forget to take your phone and phone charger! I won't say that this is a walk in the park. The first few weeks after surgery were difficult. Eventually it will all become a blur and you'll be finished with Protein Shakes and puréed food! Welcome to your new life!

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@sunnylady98

Put yourself first, I wish you well :)

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I had revision from lapband to bypass on Dec 28,2015....no regrets slowly healing but am so happy with my decision.

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I'm so glad that you are healing so well... In one peculiar way, I think it might be a little easier for those of us who are older because many of us have had experiences with pain before!

Did the lap band not work for you or had it deteriorated? ...or neither one?

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It caused irreparable damage to my esophagus.I was vomiting and sliming constantly.Developed GERD.Gained back most of the weight.Only lost 35 pounds and struggled to keep it off.It flipped,Painful protruding port.?.Had it and struggled for 14 years.Carried around plastic bags for barfing.It started to erode.?..lucky to get a revision to bypass covered by insurance.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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