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Hi I'm 50 years old and have a Bmi of 52. I am struggling with the decision whether to have surgery. I have lost 100+ lbs a few times in the past. When I am losing, I am pretty disciplined and do well with weight loss. Then something switches and it all goes to crap and I end up gaining all the weight back and then some. I am so fearful that I will do well with the surgery but something will switch in my brain, and the weight will all come back on. Is there any reason that the surgery will change this pattern? i really want the surgery, but the fear of regain is holding me back. I guess I am an all or nothing person. Anybody relate or any advice? The mental part of this is frightening.

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I am an all or nothing person too. I can give you 2 reasons why the Sleeve worked for me and how it's different from any diet, pill or weight loss program I've ever tried and failed to keep the weight off.

1) My stomach is about 20% of the size it used to be. It will not stretch, and it hurts like hell when I try to eat too much. Kind of a deterrent to overeating. :-P

2) With the removal of 80% of my stomach, the production of Ghrelin (the hunger hormone) has been almost eliminated. My head hunger and uncontrollable food cravings have almost completely stopped. I eat by choice now, not by having my willpower wore down by the little nagging voice that was telling me to eat when I was not hungry.

But I have to add, YOU have to be ready to give up every food you love. I had to be at that point in my life. You will be able to eat EVERY food you love at some point post-op (for me it was after 1 year), it will be up to you to make the right choices after about the first 6 months (known as the honeymoon period) post-op.

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Because my insurance requires a $5000 co pay for bariatric surgery, which I have not yet had, I will be paying a lot of money for it. For me, that fact alone motivates me to follow the rules exactly. Also, when that time comes, I will be asking myself, which is more important to me, my kids and future grandkids, or this bite of ice cream??????? Keep your motivation in front of you.

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I have been in the same situation but I am looking at the surgery as a lifetime commitment.

Each time you think of falling down just think of the surgery

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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