So my partner hasn't been very supportive of my upcoming surgery! During an argument tonight he referred to my savings for my surgery as my "fat money" an I looked at him disputed and his response was "well it's true the reason your getting surgery is cos your fucking fat" .. I'm so hurt right now... ????

If you are having the surgery you need all the support you have specially during the post op period. If your partner isnt supportive now, it will be a very difficult period

Please don't let anyone or anything bring you down. I know it hurts but just keep going and let your actions speak louder than your words. When I have heard enough, I go Walking or cycling. You will do. You will conquer.

You do not need that s*** in your life.

Thanks guys I honestly hope it stops and he starts supporting me sooner rather than later

Once insults are hurled at you they can't be taken back. Life is too short to live with a person that degrades you.

@@KnowUrWorth - you definitely don't need that bu//$h!t -

walk away and do something for you, and if you need to - come here.

Is he scared that once you start to lose weight, you won't need him or want to be with him anymore? Sounds like he just wants to bring you down and for things to stay the way they are.

So sorry you are going thru this. Surgery can be hard enough, without any complications coming from those that are around you x

When people show you who they are, believe them.

~Maya Angelou~

It's hard when your going through such a drastic change in your life and when you need support the person who should be your biggest supporter isn't. It's not just that he is unsupportive, he sounds cruel, with those comments.

You need a support system to give you the very best chance at success. Maybe asking him why he is unsupportive of you.

It's a time where you need to make tough choices and ultimately, your the only one who can make them.

Apart from this horrible comment do you usually have a good relationship?

My surgery is today and I can relate. My husband said to me during and argument that I'm a fat a## and that's why I need surgery to lose weight. He made me feel so low. I was proud of what I was doing til he tore me down. It was unforgivable.

YOUR HANDLE SAYS IT ALL!! KnorUrWorth Think about that as you proceed with this person. Everybody ain't meant to make this leg of the journey with you. Sending good thoughts to you that you stay encouraged. Head up!

Candy getting sleeve and Urworth it....This your journey for you...your health.Fat money ,fat rear end whatever.You are saving your life doing what's right to keep you alive!!!

How dare they rain on your parade.!!!!Get it Done!!!!

If they can't deal with it you may have to shrink them in your lives as your fat rear ends decreases and becomes compact.!!!Its about you...so yeah fat money is well worth it !!!!

Candy good luck with your surgery!!Congratulations...that fat a## will be shrinking.

Urworthit,best "fat money ever spent!!!yay!!!

Congratulations!!!!

It's usually ok but when we argue it can get full on and he can be quite nasty & say some hurtful things. We've got 2 children together. 2 year old & 3 month old, so you'd think he would be a lot nicer but that isn't the case. It's not the first time his put me down about my weight. He always apologies and says he only said it in anger but I just don't know when enough is enough..

@@Pinkgirl1234 @MisforMimi - I agree with both of you~

@@KnowUrWorth @@candygettingsleeved - you two need to focus on yourself and getting through surgery. some people are insecure and when they see others moving in a better direction they get ugly. Neither of you need that crap with the journey you are starting.

keep your heads up - and move on!!!!