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kranky813

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kranky813    477

kranky813
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Hello everyone I am new here! I have been lurking in the shadows for a while but this is the first time I have posted here.

I am scheduled for my Sleeve on Thursday and I am starting to have a lot of anxiety about it. I am self pay so first and foremost it's $17k right out of my pocket (although my husband keeps insisting that it's going to a good cause and he wants me to be happy again) I'm the saver he's the spender and I just keep thinking over and over that I am jumping in too fast.

I have been going through the process for a year now. I have had all 6 nutrition appointments, 2 psychologist appointments and have seen my surgeon several times. I am fully prepared and know what to expect. My house if filled with juices, broths, Water, etc.. in preparation for me to not eat for a few weeks.

So why am I freaking out? Is this normal? Did anyone else feel this way?

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natnat919    165

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It is completely normal!! You should be anxious before any life-changing decision! A month from now it will just be a distant memory and you will be on your journey to a new life!

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IncredibleShrinkingMan    437

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It's virtually impossible not to feel that way. Bariatric surgery is not just a major procedure...it is an epic transformation, and the end of life as we have previously known it. But once you are on the other side, it is an amazing feeling, even with the various sources of early discomfort present.

My best advice would be to start living your life as though you have already had it. That will give you an advancement on the euphoria that comes with completing the surgery, and you can start to realize early benefits of the surgery that come before even having the procedure. If you do all of that, then the only thing different once you finally reach the other side will be the smaller stomach. We need to stop viewing everything associated with this procedure as a restriction or a taboo. It is better to look at both the endeavor at large and all its individual parts as elements of freedom and opportunity that we earned. And yes, we earned it by making this decision. We didn't necessitate it with our obesity, as we are among fewer than 1% of obese people that ever decide to have it in the first place. Congratulations and good luck!

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newbeginnings1965    48

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If someone offered u 10 more years at a cost of 17,000 i bet u would take it. Not only will you probably live longer, but all your years will be better. I know it is alot of money, but is not a fancy car it is a healther u. Wish u the best.

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Knitchic    97

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If someone offered u 10 more years at a cost of 17,000 i bet u would take it. Not only will you probably live longer, but all your years will be better. I know it is alot of money, but is not a fancy car it is a healther u. Wish u the best.

Wow I am self pay and struggled with spending that much on myself but never thought about it like that. Very good point and VERY eye opening.

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kstellflug    9

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I agree with the previous post! I am self-pay also and I just keep telling people that ask why, "I'm doing it to save my life!" And isn't that worth any amount??

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

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