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That's too funny! I have the same concerns with about three of those things you mentioned. That's what's pushing me to finally face getting surgery. I don't want my kids to have the mom that's the biggest lady in the room or for them to ride alone because mommy can't fit on the rides because her legs are too darn big ????

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Worrying that if I have to get on the floor for some reason that I won't be able to get back up again.

Feeling that awful drag of weight just trying to turn over in bed.

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Dating. After the last three girls I dated said they were either too embarrassed to have me meet their friends or family or just too afraid to have sex with me I gave up and stopped trying to find someone out of fear of being hurt more. It's been five years since I've dated.

As a woman, I have dealt with guys who want to be with me just because I'm a big girl and they heard it was fun. I'm like " I'm not an experiment" on the other hand people think I'm probably insecure anyway so I will tolerate anything. It's a cold world. Sometimes it is easier to be alone than to deal with the foolishness. I wish you the best with your surgery. Focusing on loving yourself first and then people will have no choice but to do the same.

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In addition to some of the other things people already posted,

I'm looking forward too:

-not having to move the car seat back every time i get in and out of the car or making those heavy/ out of breath breathing noises when trying to adjust myself into the seat.

- not having that look of embarrassment when you need to slide in between someone's chair and the wall, and the gap looks big (and 2 other people just fit through there with no problem), but you know you need a little extra room

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Dating. After the last three girls I dated said they were either too embarrassed to have me meet their friends or family or just too afraid to have sex with me I gave up and stopped trying to find someone out of fear of being hurt more. It's been five years since I've dated.

My last two relationships went south because of something similar. It encouraged me to take the first step in this journey even though we broke up right after that first step. At the start I used to think well if only he could have waited to see the result. Now, well he's in another relationship with someone thinner than I was but heavier than I am now. He's seen where I'm at now...and he couldn't hide the surprise lol it was nice and definitely has kept me away from the negative thoughts and doubts I had at the start. It motivates me to keep going even though I never did all this for him. That first moment of confidence (my first in nearly a decade) is what I think of when I stall in my weight loss. It gets me motivated to keep trying and refocuses me to get back or stay on track.

I know many of us did it for ourselves, to be healthy and be around for our kids and families but having been left by my daughters father and then this guy over it, I can't say I feel guilty for being proud of myself and neither should any of y'all! Only we know how tough this journey can be at times!

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I hated realizing I was one of the biggest people in the room. Also, I have 3 other sisters and was always the fattest.

Now I weigh less than 2 of them :)

I can so relate to this!!! I have 2 older sisters that have always been small. I will never weigh less than them, but at least I won't so much bigger than them anymore. They may be smaller, but I'll always be younger than them!! ????

Surgery is set for July 12, CAN NOT WAIT!!!

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I have a 27" inseam. I've been building a truck for me to use as my daily driver. For me to sit comfortably and push my foot all of the way to the floor on the clutch pedal I was going to have to shorten the steering column because my stomach would rub the steering wheel. By the time it will be running I won't have to worry about it!

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isn't it crazy how these things change? I am a petite woman, so I have to pull my seat almost all the way forward. and I used to look 8 months pregnant, so the belly rubbed for sure.

4 months post op? there is all kinds of crazy room between me and the steering wheel. makes me pretty happy!

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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