When your spouse/significant other is still obese...

[BethinPA 305]

If your spouse needs WLS get him on board.Obesity is no joke!!!!

Oh, yeah.

That's easily done. Not.

Who got me on board? Me.

Did anyone here actually ever have someone "talk them into" dealing successfully with their obesity?

Amen sister!

My oldest sister is very obese and gains more every year. I know it bothers her that I "left" her as the only fat sibling, and she has never once acknowledged or congratulated me for losing over 100 pounds. I know I could never talk her into surgery, so I just every so often try to slip in a positive detail, something health wise that improved with the weight loss. I just want her to know that I'm ready to help whenever she is ready for the help. I just wish she would get ready already!

[Alex Brecher 10,516]

It’s really tough. On the one hand, it’s his choice. Getting healthy is clearly something that you have to want for yourself and do for yourself. On the othr hand

The first thing is to try to communicate your thoughts openly with him. Do you feel comfortable explaining your thoughts; that you want him to be healthy, especially because you feel how good it feels to be healthy; that you support him; that you don’t ever want to nag him; that you want him to be healthy because you think it will make him happier?

Once you communicate with him, there’s not much more you can do besides lead by example. Your own ability to do more things, be happier in life, focus on things other than food, go out with friends, etc., could motivate him to want to follow in your footsteps (surgery or not).

You can also try to include him without making him feel threatened. Invite him to work out with you; ask if he’ll help you prepare your healthy food.< /p>

Good luck – it’s tough to watch someone not choose to be healthy once you’ve decided to!

[scstxrn 213]

I've slipped the idea of surgery around my husband a few times a month for the last 8 months... he's strongly considering it for next March. It's whatever to me though -I just want him to be happy and healthy.

[Pinkgirl1234 761]

I have a really attractive friend who never discusses weight...she has a very high bmi.It got so bad that she would come over with the intent to see a movie or go shopping the last time she came over she literally had to take a nap..Heart palpitations and dizziness from the high blood pressure....fast forward 4 months ago she revealed that she was getting the sleeve.....What ??,I would of never thought..,fast forward 2 month out she and her daughter had surgery 2 weeks apart....down 40 pounds ...joining a gym....amazing.

[Jessica Ellison-Correa 66]

im in a similar boat with my husband but hes trying to lose weight with slimfast. he says if he cant keep the weight off by this time next year he will get the surgery which makes me happy because i just want him to be healthy

[JupiterinVirgo 846]

Keep leading by example!

[BigDog Bryan 262]

With my wife, I've approached it from the health side. Getting rid of Diabetic medications and the long-term problems (nerve pain, skin issues, mobility compromises, possible losses) seems to motivate her far more than getting to a size whatever.

My energy level so much higher that now things have actually flipped. I'm now the one offering to walk the extra block to get the car and bring it to her. She is complaining from time to time about sore joints, and I am getting the clean reports from the doctor. Her diabetic condition is absolutely weight related, and seeing me lose the Metformin immediately after surgery was an eye opener for her.

Talking about the better health and only about that has been most effective so far. She has an initial consultation appointment later this month. I will stay encouraging and prayerful concerning her journey.