I need help :(

[nicolewilliams 16]

So im 2 months post op and down 40 pounds. I honestly believe I could be down more if I had followed my eating plan to a T, but I have not. I can pretty much eat what I want, of course at a small percentage and thats what Ive pretty much been doing.

My portions have been small and im losing at a rate of about 4 pounds per week, and excersize everyday. Ive even had doritoes,Cookies,soda,pizza, fries, icecream and candy. .although I wasnt able to eat much of those items,I know I should not have even tried them. Ive decided that I need to buckle down although Im still losing because I desire my change to be lifelong.

I need some help. How do I start over? Like what should I do to revamp and cleanse my body?

[chunkyloverlovesyou 197]

finally... Welcome to my world, it's a struggle.... Gotta start exercising, but good luck trying to have the energy to do that while eating small amounts of crap, I have not figured that part out yet.

[MarceMonster 161]

I had a piece of pizza once, and I veered off diet slightly while I was on vacation, but then the moment I got home I went right back to my diet plan. You shouldn't need to do a cleanse, although I guess you can if you want to, but the best thing to do is just stop eating junk. You know what you are supposed to eat. Protein first (2-4oz), then non-starch vegetables, then fruit, then other carbs if you have room, but most people don't if they fallow that order. I eat lower carb then most people, but you don't have to do that. Most NUTs suggest having around 60-80g of carbs per day. I promise you will feel better if your not eating Doritos, pizza, ect.... You need to get back on track though, because you may be losing 4 lbs a week now, but after 6 months it slows down. That being said, I wish I was losing 4 lbs a week!!!! I very rarely eat something I shouldn't and I workout 6 days per weeks and I do not lose consistently. My weight loss averages out to 3lbs per week, but it doesn't actually happen that way!!! I have had weeks were I only lost half a pound! So I am slightly jealous!!!! I hope this works out for you!

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

Wow, you really haven't been following your post-op program. I glad the only problem it seems to have caused is that you haven't lost as much as you had hoped. I am glad you didn't hurt yourself.

That said, it's never too late to start following your program.

Why not make an appointment with your NUT.

In the meantime, pull out your post-op instructions and reread everything. What is your Protein goal?

Starting today, commit to getting in all your Protein and Water. Get all the junk out of your house.

You might also want to consider making an appointment with a therapist or counselor.

Best of luck in getting on track.

[OKCPirate 5,323]

@@nicolewilliams - "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it." Albert Einstein. In other words, a simple change in diet or exercise is really not the solution, but instead you might want to take a look at your underling issue with food and the comfort it give you. This is a long term battle, not a short term fight.

[laguerr13 993]

This is why we have to do the psych part and I believe it needs to be more extensive, the surgery is only a small portion of it, I had to learn what "autonomy" meant and it helped, eating those kinds of things is a gateway, just like drugs, so you need to go back to square one and start again, if not you go in deeper, as for getting in the nutrients, if You follow the Dietician's instructions it is a lot easier to get in your nutrients, I work out pretty intense and I can average 65-100g of Protein, 400-600 cals, and 20-100carbs, 55-90oz of Fluid, and I reward myself with one cheat day per month, but it's because I was close to losing my life, and I put my mind to it, and decided enough was enough, every once in awhile lately you will spot several clowns on here trying to discourage you or giving you false information, this journey means too much to me to listen to them, and I want to use my bluntness in a positive manner to pay it forward and give back, just take a deep breath, then take accountability, then start to take a step back and start over................ Look at it this way, if you get up the morning then that's one more chance !

Edited August 9, 2015 by laguerr13

[nicolewilliams 16]

You all are incredibly amazing!! I needed ALL of this.revamping my mind. Going back to square one and starting again. Also making an appointment with my nutritionist and a therapist for counseling. Im realizing that the underlying issue is grief related,as all of the foods ive recently tasted, are all foods my identical twin sister loved and we ate often as children.she passed away when we were 26, and it was such a devastating loss for me. Lately, ive missed her something terribly,and find that i find anyway possible to just feel close to her again. I went through wi the surgery in hopes that it would enable me to be healthy, and live a long life for her small children. One who is only 4.its been 4 years since she passed. Thanks everyone.I just needed some way to vent.

[Babbs 14,681]

@@nicolewilliams

Your sister would want you to live a long, healthy life.

Get some therapy, get back to basics, and live the best life you can possibly live in her honor.

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

I am so sorry for your loss.

Definitely talk to a counselor. Grief counseling has been very helpful to me in addition to counseling around food.

Is there anything else that you and your sister shared besides food? Maybe journaling about memories of your sister and/or making a memory book to share with her kids when they are older might be something that you could do? This is where talking with a professional would be helpful. Identifying ways to honor you and your sister's relationship and memory in a healthy way would help you be there for your family.

Keep us posted on how you are doing.

[laguerr13 993]

Yeah, now it makes sense, thanks for your honesty, keep us posted, alot of us really care, if you need to talk I'm here everyday at some point, this is my AA.......... My drink of choice was food

[NinaB 16]

Your sister would be smacking that food out your mouth! You know i am right!! Lol Get it together! Do it for her and for the kids but remember you will rejoice in the benefit of it all! You can do it!! We are here for you!! Best of luck!! We believe in you! Everyone can derail, it's life.

[sleevenv 483]

I'm right with you Nicole! I'm only six weeks out but I have discovered a few slider foods that taste great, don't overly fill me, and are full of BAD carbs. They've brought me into a stall. It's only been about 4-5 cheats, but it is mentally terrifying!

Thanks for your post and the supportive posts that it provoked!

[OKCPirate 5,323]

@@sleevenv - We are a very supportive group. We'll even be supportive of trolls for the first page of their post, and then we pull out the long knives.

[laguerr13 993]

I prefer the term "shank a troll "