Any tips on getting that first bm? Ive felt pretty close a few times but im afraid to push it out. Will the first one hurt?

If your medical team allows it, use some Miralax or Milk of Magnesia in conjunction with Senokot or Dulcolax (stool softener). You need to poop, don't hold back. It's either poop or end up in the ER having some nurse's fingers up inside working to remove impacted stool. Which do you choose?

I think Mirolax is the safest go to, we use it for alot of our patients, and my surgeon told me to use it after I went 5 days without, start with one capful and give it 24 hours to work, if still too hard go another capful and stop, stay close to home after 2nd capful, you may get stomach cramps right before, and caution on anything you take. You will become dehydrated very quickly so drink a lot of fluids, I would go with Powerade Zero or Gatorade G2 and water, it will also help you pass if you take a lot of fluids and do some physical activity, call your office first to make sure......

I used the gentle Dulcolax for sensitive tummies (the pink one). I took 2. Be prepared to stay home for about 6 hours at least. I only had to take it once, that got everything moving.

I just wasnt sure if stool softener was safe 5 days out of surgery

I emailed my bariatric nurse and she told me to go ahead and take a softener. I'm probably backed up because ive been having trouble with getting my fluids.

Hope she or he told you that without enough fluids....... Well it's gonna hurt !!! Sorry, try hard to get fluids in, it is needed along with a softener

Yeah she told me to get in as much as I can lol.