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LittleMissCopular    50

LittleMissCopular
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"Wow! Have you lost weight!?" I get this statement ALL the time (currently at my heaviest) does anyone else get this? Its like people freeze and can't think of anything else to say. I don't get it... How about just a hello? At this point it just makes me smile cause come October i'll be able to say "absolutely, I have!"

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byebyebmi    100

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I had to laugh after I read this, because I get it ALL THE TIME. I work part time at a gym and I have one client here that said to me recently "wow, i can REALLY tell the difference in the way you look!!" and I'm thinking "Lady, i've gained like 4 pounds". I don't know if its just the way the clothes lay on me that day or what, but i've had multiple people comment or ask me about losing weight and i'm at my heaviest too!

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BLERDgirl    6,417

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Now that I am nearly 100lbs down I am getting this a lot. I'm taking it with a grain of salt since most people aren't saying it in a rude manner.

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MrsSugarbabe    727

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I just smile and give them a real big "Thank you!!"

The comments range from "Wow! You look great!!!" "You're looking great! How much have you lost?" Today's comment was "You look great! You've lost a lot of weight." Most everyone who knows me well, knows I've had the surgery. Some folks I'll see around the hospital or in the medical office building next door only once or twice a week or month - they're the ones who are most surprised because they probably don't know I've had VSG.

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LittleMissCopular    50

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Im still pre surgery! I can't wait!

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Pillar2butterfly    391

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I get this too..."Have you lost weight?" Um...no! I just tell them I'm just having great sex, that's why I look so good! Hopefully soon I can say "why yes I have thank you for noticing!"

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byebyebmi    100

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@@LittleMissCopular it happened today to me again. But I noticed that it was the same outfit I wore the last time I got it. So apparently bright teal gym pants and a solid black shirt do wonders for me. LOL

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LittleMissCopular    50

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@"ThickandTired" yesss! Girl Im going to pick me up some teal hahah. Although I am 5.3lbs this week!

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wwboy    141

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"Wow! Have you lost weight!?" I get this statement ALL the time (currently at my heaviest) does anyone else get this? Its like people freeze and can't think of anything else to say. I don't get it... How about just a hello? At this point it just makes me smile cause come October i'll be able to say "absolutely, I have!"

I'm currently at my heaviest weight ever and people are constantly saying things like this to me. I feel embarrassed for both of us when I get it. It almost feels like they're either saying: "my mental image of you is of a giant lazy slob -- but somehow you managed to look nicer than that in person -- must be your weight.." OR a subtle reverse psychology pressure telling me that I NEED to lose weight.

In both cases, it always makes me feel icky (and I'm male - which means that the cultural expectations are quite different for me than for a female). And I NEVER make comments on people's weight because of this.

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LittleMissCopular    50

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"Wow! Have you lost weight!?" I get this statement ALL the time (currently at my heaviest) does anyone else get this? Its like people freeze and can't think of anything else to say. I don't get it... How about just a hello? At this point it just makes me smile cause come October i'll be able to say "absolutely, I have!"

I'm currently at my heaviest weight ever and people are constantly saying things like this to me. I feel embarrassed for both of us when I get it. It almost feels like they're either saying: "my mental image of you is of a giant lazy slob -- but somehow you managed to look nicer than that in person -- must be your weight.." OR a subtle reverse psychology pressure telling me that I NEED to lose weight.

In both cases, it always makes me feel icky (and I'm male - which means that the cultural expectations are quite different for me than for a female). And I NEVER make comments on people's weight because of this.

yes!!! I completely get that! How old are you? Maybe its an age thing.

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wwboy    141

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"Wow! Have you lost weight!?" I get this statement ALL the time (currently at my heaviest) does anyone else get this? Its like people freeze and can't think of anything else to say. I don't get it... How about just a hello? At this point it just makes me smile cause come October i'll be able to say "absolutely, I have!"

I'm currently at my heaviest weight ever and people are constantly saying things like this to me. I feel embarrassed for both of us when I get it. It almost feels like they're either saying: "my mental image of you is of a giant lazy slob -- but somehow you managed to look nicer than that in person -- must be your weight.." OR a subtle reverse psychology pressure telling me that I NEED to lose weight.

In both cases, it always makes me feel icky (and I'm male - which means that the cultural expectations are quite different for me than for a female). And I NEVER make comments on people's weight because of this.

yes!!! I completely get that! How old are you? Maybe its an age thing.

I'm 34....

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LittleMissCopular    50

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Im 21. So I don't know..

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naturegirl    320

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I'd love a compliment like that. It would make my day, even if it wasn't true. I've found that it's the little things that do it, like a compliment from a stranger on my hair. If it makes me smile then it's good enough. No one has said anything to me today, but I looked in the mirror this morning and thought to myself, 'I look good'! It may be Spanx like undershirt, but my pants feel a smidge looser and my torso a little less lumpy :)

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    • Doughgurl

      Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
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      1. Phil Penn

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        Good Luck this procedure is well worth it I am down to 249.6 lb please continue with the process..

    • LeighaTR

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      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
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    • Doughgurl

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      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
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      1. Selina333

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        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

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        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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