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Well folks, it's not good news. My husband, Dave, has stage 4 colon cancer. It has been a very rough day. They will not remove the tumor until chemo has settled the rest of the cancer down, then they will consider removing the tumor. We are in total shock, obviously. Now the real work begins. The praying never stops. The true love of friends is revealed, and peace WILL fall over us all.

We thank ALL of you for your prayers and kindly thoughts, for being there. Now I MUST dig inside and find enough strength to help him through this, to carry him as he has carried me through all the hard times that have come before.

Right now it seems things are about to get crazy, so I will be pulling back from answering on this site. I will try to post updates as time permits, but please understand this is all so draining. We are SOOOOO touched by all of your support, you may never know what it really means to us. We ask that you keep praying for us, every prayer is heard.

God bless you all, safe journeys, everyone......

Jenifer

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I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis. I can't imagine how hard it must be to face such a serious illness. I hope all the prayers and good wishes that I, and many others on this site are sending you lift you up at least a little bit and help you stay hopeful.

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Jennifer, take care of your husband; take care of yourself...we'll be here.

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@@CanyonBaby

My heart is heavy thinking about you after reading this post. My hope is the love you have for your husband, prayer and support will give you the strength to take on this unfortunate challenge in life.

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Well folks, it's not good news. My husband, Dave, has stage 4 colon cancer. It has been a very rough day. They will not remove the tumor until chemo has settled the rest of the cancer down, then they will consider removing the tumor. We are in total shock, obviously. Now the real work begins. The praying never stops. The true love of friends is revealed, and peace WILL fall over us all.

We thank ALL of you for your prayers and kindly thoughts, for being there. Now I MUST dig inside and find enough strength to help him through this, to carry him as he has carried me through all the hard times that have come before.

Right now it seems things are about to get crazy, so I will be pulling back from answering on this site. I will try to post updates as time permits, but please understand this is all so draining. We are SOOOOO touched by all of your support, you may never know what it really means to us. We ask that you keep praying for us, every prayer is heard.

God bless you all, safe journeys, everyone......

Jenifer

Good morning,

You and your family are in my thoughts. Please continue to do the best you can to stay strong and do whats best for you and your husband. You take care, we'll be here when you come back ????

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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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I hope he makes a full recovery and we are all praying for you here.

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@@CanyonBaby

Pray boldly! Remember there are many prayer warriors on this site, keeping you and your husband in prayer. I know God will help you through this, I am so sorry that you must endure such a hardship. My heart is with you, take care of yourself and your beloved husband.

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@@CanyonBaby,

I am so sorry to hear that your husband is ill. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

We will be here when you are ready.

God bless you!

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I am so sorry to hear this news. Thoughts and prayers for you and your husband.

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I can't imagine how scary and painful that must be. I hope you receive the comfort and support that you need. Hugs from Miss Mac in Chicago.

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I have enjoyed your posts always. Although I am really a newbie here, I am saddened by your news. Know we are all with you and here to help keep you strong. Sending prayers to you and your family. We are all here when you need us! Take care of yourself and your husband. God bless!

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I wish you strength and peace. Prayers for you both.

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Praying for strength for both of you. Remember to take care of yourself too. It's really easy to get overwhelmed when you are a caregiver.

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