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Hi everyone! I am finally scheduled for surgery on July 1st and am trying to get mentally prepared for everything. I finally was able to give up soda after it being a huge addiction for me and I'm so proud of accomplishing it! My biggest worry though are my children. I have twins that are 5 and a little 2 year old. How will this surgery affect my children? What can I expect right after surgery? Should I get help right after or will I be able to do it myself? Any parents out there that can help me out?

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The first week is hard, but then it gets easier everyday. The pre-op diet may be challenging as well. You aren't suddenly going to lose so much weight that you look different. It will be over a few weeks and months. You won't want to pick up your children, since that could rip your stitches. Maybe talk to them about that ahead of time. Let them know that you have to go see the doctor and when you come home you will have to rest a lot. Kids can often rise to the occasion. It may be useful to have some help for the first week or 2.

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biggest worry are my children. twins are 5 and a 2 year old. How will this surgery affect my children? Any parents out there that can help me out?

@@michellebernal1

congrats on "kicking the soda habit :) "

firm believer in following the rules (99.999% of the time)

for a while after surgery, you are not allowed to lift a certain amount of weight

check with your NUT - she will tell you the weight limit

this in your case refers to your cutie kids :rolleyes:

don't lift them too soon, go with your doc/NUTS directions

the 5 year old twins would probably love you to pick them up periodically with your hugs

nut "might" tell you they weigh too much for you to lift immediately PO

the two year old is also probably too heavy early PO :angry:

we all recover from surgery differently

you might have an "uneventful" recovery, no problems :)

that would be great

but keep your eyes open always!!!! it might not always be peaches and cream :angry:

i think its ok to sometimes "expect/prepare" for the worst - hope for the best :)

do you live alone with your cutie kids????

hubby, boyfriend, mom (other family) can they stay with you to help with the kids???

you must not overdue!!!!

you will just have had major surgery

don't be too proud to ask/accept help from others

i'll be happy to come over to help per your request ;)

just mail me a round way ticket

$5,00.00 spending money ;)

i'll bring my Water btl and swim suit :lol:

your twins will gradually notice good changes in you

you will/should feel better/healthier

you will/should feel more confident to be outside with them "playing"

no more sitting on the side lines watching life go by, or sitting on the bench

kids are aware of changes in people

(ie their mom losing weight, being more active, happier etc)

take care bud

good luck with surgery

thoughts for a speedy/healthy recovery :)

kathy

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Thank you so much Kathy! I am married and my husband can help a little because he works at night and sleeps in the morning. I'll look into asking my mother-in law for the help with the kids. Thank you so much for your help and positive attitude because surgery is kinda scary!!

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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