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I went to a new GYN when I moved years ago. She (the only 'she' doctor I've ever gone to) came in, did the exam and casually said in her conversation, "Have you ever considered losing weight?"

Hmmmm, considered losing weight. What a novel idea! Why, no!

A-hole.

lololol Oh man, you are too funny! I had a similar thing happen to me with a doctor, "Have you tried dieting?" "Dieting? Wow. No, I would have never thought of that! Hallelujah I've had a revelation!!!!!! " :)

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The "best/worst" backhanded compliment I ever received was from a hillgrit customer when I worked in retail. He said, "I like you. I don't like lil' skinny women. Yore real. Yore real like a bowl of Beans. You'd look good in my kitchen."

God, I wish I was making this up. (Did I mention that I worked in West Virginia at the time?)

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I got one it is from my mom. "you'r not as skinny as you think you are."

I went from a size tight 26/28 to a cute stylish 16 (ok they where tight) but still that's like six sizes. So now I wear 18s when I'm aound her:)

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A friend of mine, whose husband was a pharmacutical rep, needed to go for a GYN checkup. She didn't know any since they were new to the area. Her DH had just visited with a new GYN in the area and he seemed very nice. Plus, he wanted to be supportive and win a new customer for his business. So he told my friend his wife, who was probably 75 lbs. overweight, that she should try him.

She did. After the appointment, she called me in tears. She said she'd had the most humiliating experience of her life. Seems the young Doc was doing the exam and his wife was his assistant. When he uncovered her breasts to check for lumps, he said "Oh My GOD!!!" Honey, come here, look at these! These are the biggest breasts I've ever seen in my life!!" The wife came and took a look and agreed that they were huge! My good friend said she had to lie there through the pelvic, while she was totally mortified, face beet red and couldn't wait to get the hell out of there. I wanted to go punch that a-hole in the face myself!!! :angry

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I got one it is from my mom. "you'r not as skinny as you think you are."

I went from a size tight 26/28 to a cute stylish 16 (ok they where tight) but still that's like six sizes. So now I wear 18s when I'm aound her:)

Mothers are amazing aren't they? Do you think she's jealous?

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I have two sisters one older, maybe 20-30lbs over weight, and a much younger sister, maybe 50-60lbs overweight, Once at a huge barbecue at my older sister's house, MY MOTHER announced loudly: "Look at my girls. They have all kinds of advanced degrees, but it doesn't do them any good. They're all fat!"

:angry

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I have two sisters one older, maybe 20-30lbs over weight, and a much younger sister, maybe 50-60lbs overweight, Once at a huge barbecue at my older sister's house, MY MOTHER announced loudly: "Look at my girls. They have all kinds of advanced degrees, but it doesn't do them any good. They're all fat!"

:angry

Wow! :omg: What a loving remark! Not!! :o

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lorna, if my mom had same something like that to my sisters and me, we would have announced in just as loud a voice, "Yeah, and there's the mother that taught us everything we know." :heh:

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lorna, if my mom had same something like that to my sisters and me, we would have announced in just as loud a voice, "Yeah, and there's the mother that taught us everything we know." :heh:

BJean--good one! Wish I had thought of it!

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A friend of mine, whose husband was a pharmacutical rep, needed to go for a GYN checkup. She didn't know any since they were new to the area. Her DH had just visited with a new GYN in the area and he seemed very nice. Plus, he wanted to be supportive and win a new customer for his business. So he told my friend his wife, who was probably 75 lbs. overweight, that she should try him.

She did. After the appointment, she called me in tears. She said she'd had the most humiliating experience of her life. Seems the young Doc was doing the exam and his wife was his assistant. When he uncovered her breasts to check for lumps, he said "Oh My GOD!!!" Honey, come here, look at these! These are the biggest breasts I've ever seen in my life!!" The wife came and took a look and agreed that they were huge! My good friend said she had to lie there through the pelvic, while she was totally mortified, face beet red and couldn't wait to get the hell out of there. I wanted to go punch that a-hole in the face myself!!! :angry

I would have stopped that doctor right in his tracks, put my clothes on and left. And if he had the gall to bill me after that, I would fight it all the way to the end. What a horrible, horrible thing to put someone through.

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My MIL saw me 10 months after surgery and wanted to know why I looked so thin. She asked if I was sick because when she last saw me I was so fluffy and rosy cheeked. What the hell! I guess she was shocked to see I was losing weight after seeing me fat for as long as she can remember?!

My DH, mother, grandmother, and myself were chatting at a family bbq and my mother out of the blue stated that she had such a beautiful daughter. I was embarrassed by her comment, but felt good. At which my grandmother, responded, yeah and you better keep that weight off because you have such a good looking husband. Talk about going from feeling good to feeling like a total idiot. What in the hell does that have anything to do with my weight. Was she trying to imply that my DH would leave me if I regained my weight, I think not. I've been fat for the last 15 yrs and he's been right there to support me.

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I was told how my ex sister in law would call me shamu the baby whale, and then she said something that well hurt me to beyone no return until I went to the source. She said that my hubby made a comment on how he was going to put my two ton butt on the rider mower in the hot sun and waitn for me to have a heart attack and keelm over to get my Insurance. Well I blew up but then I sat with my hubby and told him of this and aksed if he said it, he said no he did not and then drove me over to her place and asked her why she would say such a thing, she said that is what his sister told her, well they both got an earfull from him and told them where to get off at. I should have never doubted him, he thinks I look fine right now but he supports me in my decision for the surgery, he is a dear been together for over 30 years. People just tick me off. His brother came over bragging about how he laughs at fat people when he is shopping. Some people have nothing better to do I guess.

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Marimaru: I think she was too shocked to do anything proactive. She definitely felt violated and not ony by the doctor, but also his wife!

sharon2u: What a great thing for your DH to take you over to confront his sibs about their comments! That riding lawn mower remark was not just tactless, it could have been destructive to your relationship with your husband! What a ninny she must be. And that's the nicest term I can think of right now!

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Hi BJean, in my so called DH family the men are not supposed to spek up for thier wives, a bunch a nut cases but mine has always spoken up for me and when he first did it they disowned him and well he has not spoken to them in 4 years and get this they live next door to us on our property so they ahve to watch it otherwise they will be looking for a new place to live. Some people have nothing else better to do...thanks fo the come back

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People can be such jerks! I just chock it up to complete ignorance. If they had any common sense at all, these comments would not be made. My favorite comeback is, yeah I may be fat, but I can LOSE weight... you will always be ugly!:whoo:

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