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Wow laura, I just noticed the fine print at the bottom of your post. How'd you find out you have a leak? I am very sorry to hear it. You've done very well! Best wishes for a great outcome when you have the revision!!

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After 4 fills and feeling like I barely had a band, last week they did contrast in the band.. and as soon as they inject into the port it just goes SPLOOSH all over the place.

And thanks :rolleyes:

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I may be FAT, but have always HATED that word

Taught my son that it is a BAD WORD

The other day my son was telling me

that another kid called some other kid the F-Word.........I was thinking he called him a f*****

Apparently I had a funny look on my face, because my son leaned over and whispered ....you know fat

2 more points to make

1) growing up I could spend 3 hours getting all dolled up and my mom would always say “.........you look..........ok”

Just like that pause you look pause ok

am not talking about lots and lots of makeup have always wore minimal amount just enough to help, not hinder

2) my husband is 17 years older than me, and we have a 10 year old son, we have all been together and someone would comment about my son being with his grandparents...

I am pretty quick to say I hope you are looking at my husband and making that assumption

:faint:

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I was a young woman 5ft 4in weighing about 143lbs and some man described me as "that blond, built like a shithouse"! that smarted for ages

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I think the phrase, "built like a brick shit house," is actually supposed to be a compliment. It means that you are really well built.

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I may be FAT, but have always HATED that word

Taught my son that it is a BAD WORD

The other day my son was telling me

that another kid called some other kid the F-Word.........I was thinking he called him a f*****

Apparently I had a funny look on my face, because my son leaned over and whispered ....you know fat

2 more points to make

1) growing up I could spend 3 hours getting all dolled up and my mom would always say “.........you look..........ok”

Just like that pause you look pause ok

am not talking about lots and lots of makeup have always wore minimal amount just enough to help, not hinder

2) my husband is 17 years older than me, and we have a 10 year old son, we have all been together and someone would comment about my son being with his grandparents...

I am pretty quick to say I hope you are looking at my husband and making that assumption

:faint:

The word I hate the most is "obese". Sounds like an ugly animal.

After 3 hip replacements in less than a year, I filed for social security disability. After nearly a year and 2 rejections, I hired an attorney. We had a hearing after several months. There was a doctor, a vocation specialist there and the judge. The dr. said that due to my multiple surgeries and my inability to stand, sit or lift, and MY OBESITY, I could not work. Thank God he was on my side!!!!

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Hi green I thought "build like a brick shithouse"meant that I was huge and felt insulted but it - just goes to show how things can be taken the wrong way.

Thanks you have made me feel a lot better!

Now does "well built" mean that i have a lot up front? Because i don't, or did not at the time. Just kidding:)

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I also was told I was built like a brick shithouse(about 80 pds ago) and have debated for years whether that was an insult or compliment. I have always been "sturdy" even in my thin years but after I polled everyone I found to find what it meant I think it also is meant as a compliment. How about "amazon woman?"

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Here's some: 1. In high school the cutest guy rode the same school bus as me. One night he was talking with me & I was feeling really good about it until a sixth grader decided that was a good time to grab my boob & announce to everyone on the bus that " it was just all fat" At the time I was 5'6" & 155.

The person laughing the HARDEST was the schools cutest guy who had just been talking to me.!! I had no where to go but sit on that bus, in that seat, for another hour.

Then when I was 22 I worked as a customer service rep. I had started the job a size 16 then starved myself down to a 8-10. A customer I had been dealing with came back about 6mths after I had lost the weight & then proceeded to ask me what happened to the "fat, unhappy girl that that worked here" I said before it sunk in that I had been the only one working there for the last 18mths. The guy says to me, " no your too pretty this other girl was really sloppy huge, and really grumpy looking. " After that for the sake of my job I had to sit there & pretend that I wasn't that girl he had just described to my face. It was all I could do to hold back the tears!

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Here's some: 1. In high school the cutest guy rode the same school bus as me. One night he was talking with me & I was feeling really good about it until a sixth grader decided that was a good time to grab my boob & announce to everyone on the bus that " it was just all fat" At the time I was 5'6" & 155.

The person laughing the HARDEST was the schools cutest guy who had just been talking to me.!! I had no where to go but sit on that bus, in that seat, for another hour.

Then when I was 22 I worked as a customer service rep. I had started the job a size 16 then starved myself down to a 8-10. A customer I had been dealing with came back about 6mths after I had lost the weight & then proceeded to ask me what happened to the "fat, unhappy girl that that worked here" I said before it sunk in that I had been the only one working there for the last 18mths. The guy says to me, " no your too pretty this other girl was really sloppy huge, and really grumpy looking. " After that for the sake of my job I had to sit there & pretend that I wasn't that girl he had just described to my face. It was all I could do to hold back the tears!

That is a very sad story, grrl. You have all my sympathy.

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I'm "weighing" in on the "built like a brick shithouse" comment. From where I'm from, it is a huge compliment! And from the description of your height and weight at the time, I'm sure he must have been admiring your nifty curves. Guys really do like curves. I am sure there are a few who like skinny minnies, but for the most part, guys like to be able to tell their women are WOMEN.

I've often said that the reason we have super-skinny models and the reason designers design clothes for the super-skinny form, is because many of the designers are gay and they really love the male body, which is straight up and down, not curvy.

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I'm "weighing" in on the "built like a brick shithouse" comment. From where I'm from, it is a huge compliment! And from the description of your height and weight at the time, I'm sure he must have been admiring your nifty curves. Guys really do like curves. I am sure there are a few who like skinny minnies, but for the most part, guys like to be able to tell their women are WOMEN.

I've often said that the reason we have super-skinny models and the reason designers design clothes for the super-skinny form, is because many of the designers are gay and they really love the male body, which is straight up and down, not curvy.

Waah! Thanks for weighing in on the brick shit house discussion, eh. :ranger: It has been my observance that men are nowhere nearly as hung up on this biz of thinness as we chicks are. Oh, for sure most men in our culture like women to be on the side of normo or slender but they are nowhere near as blindingly hung-up on a grrl weighing no more than a rice cake as we are. Many men like a little bit of flesh and some men like it a lot. Sexual allure is about much more than just look, you know, it also about touch, and the feel of flesh on flesh is very sensual. Moreover, the presence of flesh indicates to one's primitive mammalian mind that the chosen woman is healthy and able to mate. Makes sense to this mammal.

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Yes, I now see what you mean about the brick shithouse comment, but at the time I was quite mortified.

When Jerry Hall acted in a play here in London, she was showed doing a nude scene and she was very bony across her front and I did not think that looked very nice.

We also had a programme where young women competed for a modelling contract. The public voted for the girl who was a size 12 (US size16 I think) and she did look lovely, but the organisers said she was too fat and chose a smaller woman. I did not watch the programme but read about it in the press.

You know, I think very thin people don't look very good, but I would never comment on their thiness, so why do they think they have the right to comment on our fatness

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