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Well I had my surgery on 3/30/15. I've been doing exceptionally well up until this morning. Today however I just can't stop the tears from falling. The prospect of spending my Day alone and not being able to stuff that feeling into a food frenzy leaves me feeling lost for lack of a better word. I read a lot before my surgery and I know a lot of people have experienced these emotions but honestly my journey till now has been so smooth that I just did not see this coming. I know that this is a huge moment for me because these emotions and fears are what caused me to balloon to 351 pounds, but being in this place at this moment feels like I'm having a staring contest with a black bear to see who is going to back down first. Backing down for me is not an option soooooo I'm going to a support group at 1 and I'm going to take a long walk somewhere to get some sunlight and exercise. I could use some encouragement this morning though. I know this too shall pass. Thanks BP family. Hugs

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Oh, you are NOT alone!!!!! We all have these incredible emotional episodes, some say it is the fat releasing hormones. It is normal! SO, the walk you are going to take is an excellent way to get rid of some of these feelings, and I like to give myself a "treat" by doing something new, or going window shopping, or starting a new hobby....something to get my mind off the sad. But it is NOT sad! This is a temporary thing you must look past, so try to focus on things you like, go someplace where there are lots of people (maybe a book store or something like that), or do something totally new - that you maybe have wanted to try for awhile, but never had the nerve...NOW you have the nerve! You just had WLS!!!! Reward yourself with GOOD, HEALTHY treats! Not to eat, but things to do...make a list of these things, then when you feel sad, immediately go to that list and implement your plan!!! ONTO THE NEW YOU!!!!! And HUGS to you, too!!!!

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Oh, you are NOT alone!!!!! We all have these incredible emotional episodes, some say it is the fat releasing hormones. It is normal! SO, the walk you are going to take is an excellent way to get rid of some of these feelings, and I like to give myself a "treat" by doing something new, or going window shopping, or starting a new hobby....something to get my mind off the sad. But it is NOT sad! This is a temporary thing you must look past, so try to focus on things you like, go someplace where there are lots of people (maybe a book store or something like that), or do something totally new - that you maybe have wanted to try for awhile, but never had the nerve...NOW you have the nerve! You just had WLS!!!! Reward yourself with GOOD, HEALTHY treats! Not to eat, but things to do...make a list of these things, then when you feel sad, immediately go to that list and implement your plan!!! ONTO THE NEW YOU!!!!! And HUGS to you, too!!!!

thanks CanyonBaby these are some great suggestions.

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As CanyonBaby said - you are NOT alone. Also fantastic suggestions... This is a new way of life for you and you are about to embrace it.

For years we have all surrounded ourselves with food - food was our pastime for many of us - now food isn't so much an option - sure we still need it - of course we do - and for a long time you wll be moving from what seems like one meal to another.. filled with drink, drink and more drinking. but life now is about so much more - so many new opportunities are coming your way.

Go out for your walk and plan your new life :) New way of life x

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I think a lot of us have gone through this and like Canyonbaby said, you are not alone. You will miss your old friend food for some time. Even when you're at goal, when you've had a bad day, you will miss being able to bury yourself and your tears in some ice cream and brownies in front of the TV. The rest of the time though you will feel healthy, empowered, happy, and you will find new ways to cope with emotional challenges. The hard part is over- you made the decision to have WLS and you did it. Now you just need to keep believing in yourself, keep working toward goal, and remember that everything gets better from here.

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I too was sleeved 3/30/15. You are definitely not alone. I've been really emotional this week. Had a slip on Wednesday and ate chocolate. Got myself together again but everyday feels like a mental struggle. We can do this. One day at a time. :)

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I too was sleeved 3/30/15. You are definitely not alone. I've been really emotional this week. Had a slip on Wednesday and ate chocolate. Got myself together again but everyday feels like a mental struggle. We can do this. One day at a time. :)

thanks Lloyd yes we can do this. One day at a time. Thanks and hang in there

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You all will never know how much your words of encouragement and suggestions have helped me today. I'm thankful for you and feeling better.????

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