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raquel_c    23

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Hi All!

I know this may sound silly to many but even after all the research and the assurances...having surgery is scary! I've never had any sort of major procedure or surgery except having my wisdom teeth removed at 17. I know this procedure is considered relatively "low risk" but death is still a variable.

I'm having this surgery, there's definitely no backing out for me but it's still scaring the sh*t out of me!

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McButterpants    2,846

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Scary indeed.

I almost backed out of surgery - a couple of times in the weeks before surgery and even on surgery day. I sat in admitting thinking to myself, "I can leave right now and I'll only be out $500." But then I looked at my husband, who was just as scared as I was and I chose at that moment to change my life.

Had I let fear win that day...

I wouldn't have the relationship I have with my husband and son I have today

I wouldn't have received the promotion at work - not due to fat shaming by others, but because I did enough fat shaming to myself

I wouldn't have run in that 5K last weekend (and I beat that snotty little 12 year old! Yeah, I kicked her ass!)

I wouldn't have explored Paris on foot logging 20+ miles in 2 days

I wouldn't have explored San Francisco on foot, logging 17 miles in one day!

I wouldn't have been able to walk into the department store and purchase clothes in Misses section (goodbye ugly unnatural prints in the big girls' section)

I wouldn't have tried hot yoga, to which I have now become an addict!

Don't let fear get in your way...

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mamasbabies    4

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I needed this as well @ morethan_justa_prettyface. I just received the call today that i was approved for the surgery and the what ifs kicked right in.

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raquel_c    23

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Scary indeed.

I almost backed out of surgery - a couple of times in the weeks before surgery and even on surgery day. I sat in admitting thinking to myself, "I can leave right now and I'll only be out $500." But then I looked at my husband, who was just as scared as I was and I chose at that moment to change my life.

Had I let fear win that day...

I wouldn't have the relationship I have with my husband and son I have today

I wouldn't have received the promotion at work - not due to fat shaming by others, but because I did enough fat shaming to myself

I wouldn't have run in that 5K last weekend (and I beat that snotty little 12 year old! Yeah, I kicked her ass!)

I wouldn't have explored Paris on foot logging 20+ miles in 2 days

I wouldn't have explored San Francisco on foot, logging 17 miles in one day!

I wouldn't have been able to walk into the department store and purchase clothes in Misses section (goodbye ugly unnatural prints in the big girls' section)

I wouldn't have tried hot yoga, to which I have now become an addict!

Don't let fear get in your way...

You are so right! I want all these things, that's why I want I'm going through it. I have no idea why the surgery scares me, from what I've read it's more likely I will have post op complications than during surgery. Thanks so much for sharing, I appreciate your response so much. My fear will not get the best of me! ????

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The Candidate    3,215

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I've never had surgery in my life. But even if this was going to be my 100th I think I would still be scared. It's as much a part of the process as anything else so you're in very good company. Good luck!

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RammerJammer    81

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Scary indeed.

I almost backed out of surgery - a couple of times in the weeks before surgery and even on surgery day. I sat in admitting thinking to myself, "I can leave right now and I'll only be out $500." But then I looked at my husband, who was just as scared as I was and I chose at that moment to change my life.

Had I let fear win that day...

I wouldn't have the relationship I have with my husband and son I have today

I wouldn't have received the promotion at work - not due to fat shaming by others, but because I did enough fat shaming to myself

I wouldn't have run in that 5K last weekend (and I beat that snotty little 12 year old! Yeah, I kicked her ass!)

I wouldn't have explored Paris on foot logging 20+ miles in 2 days

I wouldn't have explored San Francisco on foot, logging 17 miles in one day!

I wouldn't have been able to walk into the department store and purchase clothes in Misses section (goodbye ugly unnatural prints in the big girls' section)

I wouldn't have tried hot yoga, to which I have now become an addict!

Don't let fear get in your way...

An AMAZING reality check just happened for me!!! Thank you! My date is 4/13 and I've really been freaking out about the surgery and pain the following few days after. No pain...continue to gain. That's my new moto.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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