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Why I chose surgery - my story.



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February 17, 2015 a date which will always be a life changing memory. I couldn't sleep the day before surgery - slept in my kids room next to my little girl and watched her sleep most of the night.

This journey started 6 months ago and at that point it seemed as my date would never arrive. One month before my date I arranged last dinner, all night drinking binge, and any other activities I might not do again. I am very grateful to my family & friends for there support and willingness to understand my decision.

I grew up in a household that surrounded itself in food (which was also their way of expressing love) and unhealthy eating habits. I can remember up to the fifth grade as being overweight and hating the way I looked. Like most overweight kids I was picked on and missed out on catching the girl's attention I liked. It wasn't until high school that I started playing football and my being big was somewhat appreciated. I desperately wanted to "fit in" even though I had a lot of friends growing up I always felt like an outsider.

After high school my weight went up and down with age and I could never seem to turn the corner with living a healthy lifestyle. Personally, I feel obesity is an epidemic no one wants to address as these large fast food chains and food manufacturers make money off unhealthy products. Of course we as consumers have a choice but if you truly don't know how to make healthy choices. What options do you have? My family's mindset was "if you had a good day - eat!" "If you had a bad day - eat!" "Have a snack while you're waiting to eat - something for waiting!" How can a kid growing up in that environment have a chance to be healthy? Or how can an adult who learned those traits ever be healthy? Now that I'm 37 yrs old with 3 kids of my own I decided to break the family curse and give my kids a fighting chance. This wasn't a hard choice to make but it did require a level of strength and humility that was necessary.

Most overweight people don't understand how they got the way they were or how to get out of the vicious cycle. But it was clear to me and it was something I believe I couldn't do without this surgery. I am grateful for this new beginning!

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I went for my surgery on the 18 Feb 2015

Just had had enough. Going around Australia for a working holiday and wanted to be a participant, not a spectator.

The food thing I understand. In my house food surrounds us plus I own a take away/fish and chip shop.

I'm almost 43 and played the rolls coaster since I was 7. Hit over 213kg and that was it.

Friends had the sleeve and I just went and did it. I'm four days post op and feel fantastic.

Was at 197.7 kg when operated on. So looking forward to the next couple of months.

Congratulations mate. We have made the right choice.

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WElcome to the sleeved side @@bussomike and @gabe78...Good luck!!!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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