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I'm trying to decide what I should put in my email to my bosses to explain that I will PROBABLY be having surgery next month. The reason I want to email them before I get approval is that I work in QA and they need to prepare how much work each person is going to get. I don't want them to plan for our next build thinking that I will be there for the whole time and then have to replan the build at the last minute.

I don't really want to specify that I'm having WLS. So I was going to just say that I may need surgery next month and I wanted to give them a heads up, and that I would be off work for at least 2 weeks.

My doc office is shooting for a mid March surgery. So just trying to give my bosses as much of a heads up as possible.

Thoughts?

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I think that makes good sense and your boss will hopefully appreciate it!

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That is essentially what I said to my higher-ups at work and they had no problem with it. They had both enough tact and enough HR/legal knowledge to thank me for the information, ask if I needed anything for support, and keep their mouths shut about exactly what kind of surgery I was having. Smart of them . . . how would they have felt if they asked someone who then felt compelled to tell them she has having anal fissure repair, or hemorrhoidectomy, or pelvic floor restoration to fix incontinence issues?

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I am thinking this thru right now myself so I was glad to see your post.

I plan to use the same approach as I did for my hysterectomy. I emailed my manager and told him that I needed some surgery, that was planned for mid year, and that the surgeon was shooting for June. I told him I wouldn't have a firm date until the surgery schedule opened up for that month (what my Dr. told me) and he really didn't question it. He just asked me if I was ok, and I told him everything would be just fine and thanks for asking. He left it at that and thanked me for letting him know in advance.

I never gave it a second thought. I plan to follow the same pattern for this surgery and I do not plan to tell anyone what the surgery is for. That is just my personal decision. If I didn't plan to use FMLA, I would just take vacation and say nothing.

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I agree with the others here. Medical information is no one's business but yours. I purposely planned my surgery when I knew I'd be on break during the recovery and for the extra days, I simply said, I'm having surgery on my sick leave form. No one asked me a thing!

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i worked with my boss and co workers to be sure everything was great, I am lucky like some, where my workplace has been behind me 110%, but I can understand those who dont want anyone to know. Thier choice. But i let my job know after my first visit to the doc that it was possible and 2 months after that, i was out. thankfully i had them prepared because i literally got the call of approval on a Friday afternoon for surgery 4 days later lol.

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Well it's not entirely worried about people knowing once I have the surgery. But I don't want to talk about it and then end up not getting approval.

My doc office is shooting for a mid March surgery, but I haven't gotten approval yet. I just wanted to give him as much time as needed for planning our next build.

I went ahead and emailed him and said I may be having surgery in mid March and that I would be out for 2 weeks and that I'd let him know as soon as I had something concrete. He hadn't responded by the time I left work but I'm not really worried about it. He and his boss have both been out of the office a lot recently because their mothers are sick. Lao they are very flexible with working from home and such.

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