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As a PCOS fighter, I have been dealing with obesity my entire life. I'm 5'4 and my lightest weight was 180 when I was 16 and 207 when I was 22. My HW was 290. My current weight is 266 and finally decided to go for surgery.

I remember back in middle school, when I used to be the fattie one. This has never changed. I was also the fattie one when I was in High school and college.

I love fashion and going out so I always try to look pretty and ignore how big I am. However, there are some times that you look yourself in the mirror and you just can't accept what you see.

Sometimes, when I used to go clubbing with girlfriends, I remember never being asked to dance... and when I was asked , it was usually by the weirdest ugly looking guy in the club. My girlfriends would always find guys asking for their phones etc... I never had any luck.

I never knew what to feel admire by guys was like, some of them would only be open for sex but nothing serious, or "booty calling".

I know some of you know what I mean.

3 years ago I was lucky to find someone who not only saw a body carrying 207 lbs, but also saw who I was. I'm currently weighing 266 and he still makes feel beautiful.

I never had the same attention that regular size girls get.

It's not all abouy attention, it's also about the residual effects that those experiences gave me.

I remember saying I was going to achieve my goal weight at 25.

I remember saying I would never consider weight loss surgery because I could do it myself.

I'm 26 and decided to go for surgery. I don't care about the negative things that people will say, this is my decision. They don't know I have been through a lot.

So wish me luck on this journey.

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Congratulations on your decision and good luck! I am glad you made this decision for yourself and not for others. I think a lot of people get held back by worrying about what everyone else will thing, but this is a very personal choice and only you know what's best for YOU.

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@@JennG25

Bravo! I wish I would have had the courage to do this when I was your age. I agree with Jamie. This is you're choice. Its going to be amazing.

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@@JennG25 Good luck to you! The only regret I have is not getting WLS sooner, so you are way ahead! Keep us posted on your journey!

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Good for you! I too wish I could have done this at your age. I've also struggled with my weight since childhood. I'm now thinner than I've ever been as an adult or teen - it is really wild! Great that you can get a new start so early in life. It's truly life-changing in so many ways.

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I am so happy to hear that you made this decision for YOU!!! Because of this reason alone ;) you will succeed and do great!

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I am so happy to hear that you made this decision for YOU!!! Because of this reason alone ;) you will succeed and do great!

Good for you! I too wish I could have done this at your age. I've also struggled with my weight since childhood. I'm now thinner than I've ever been as an adult or teen - it is really wild! Great that you can get a new start so early in life. It's truly life-changing in so many ways.

@@JennG25 Good luck to you! The only regret I have is not getting WLS sooner, so you are way ahead! Keep us posted on your journey!

Congratulations on your decision and good luck! I am glad you made this decision for yourself and not for others. I think a lot of people get held back by worrying about what everyone else will thing, but this is a very personal choice and only you know what's best for YOU.

@@JennG25

Bravo! I wish I would have had the courage to do this when I was your age. I agree with Jamie. This is you're choice. Its going to be amazing.

Thank you so much for the support and kind words. I need it. I will do this for me.

I don't want to see myself crying in a fitting room while looking at the mirror. Or avoiding friends just because I don't want them to see me this big again.

I falling in love with this community. I feel like I'm not alone ???? thank you.

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Hi Jenn,

I also have PCOS and am in the process of getting the sleeve. Just like you I am tired of fighting with my weight and ready to make a lasting change. I have the support of my husband now but I understand how hurtful it is to feel like you don't exist to people or your not relationship material due to weight.

Good luck on your journey! I hope we both have great success:)

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Hi Jenn,

I also have PCOS and am in the process of getting the sleeve. Just like you I am tired of fighting with my weight and ready to make a lasting change. I have the support of my husband now but I understand how hurtful it is to feel like you don't exist to people or your not relationship material due to weight.

Good luck on your journey! I hope we both have great success:)

Thank you so much. ???? Good luck on your journey too!!!

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I also have PCOS I am already off metformin (took my last dose the day before surgery) and my endocrinologist thinks I can eliminate it which beyond thrills me! Good luck!!

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Good luck!!????

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Hey guys!

For those of you saying you have PCOS, did it help with insurance approval for the procedure? I'm in the 6 month wait phase and need all of the tips I can get! I, too, have always been the fat one. I turn 23 in April and weighed 265 at my initial consult on March 12th. The girl that no one wanted because she is morbidly obese. I am so ready for this change.

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Yes absolutely! That was my comorbidity, i was approved in less than 24 hrs of my surgeons office submitting my paperwork. I was on the "lower end" of the paperwork. Depending on your height though your BMI should approve you all by itself. I didn't have to do a 6 month supervised diet.

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See, I have been told that it would be counted as a comorbidity and I have been told that it's not "major" enough to be approved. My BMI is 41.2, but dealing with my insurance is like jumping through fire. Not only do I have to have a high BMI plus one major comorbidity, I also had to be considered at least 100lbs overweight, which I barely made the cut for. I researched and researched and researched some more, and from what I had read, if you are above 40, you have to have no comorbidity. It's all so confusing and sometimes discouraging!

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Are you on medication for it? I was on metformin? Basically like a diabetic. Also if you're in a 40 BMIndoesnt that automatically make you 100 lbs overweight? I was a 37 and you could argue I was 100 lbs overweight. Im 5'4 started at 220 I could be 120 and be a healthy weight for my height so I could in theory lose 100 lbs and my BMI wasn't as high as yours. Also never heard of you needing a comorbidity over a 40 BMI but I guess your insurance could have different requirements. Simple solution call and ask and then request they send you what they tell you in a letter so you have documentation.

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