2.5 Months Out & FAIL

[A'sgotthis 49]

Someone wrote "You still have a life to live even after surgery. Finding a balance that works for you long term is essential."

Love that...thank you.

I am following this one as I think there's a lot of good feedback, reminders, etc in this whole thread.

Sugery on 3/17/15.....thank you all!

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Postscript to my NOLA trip ...

Last night I went back to the blank meals on MFP I hadn't filled out while in NOLA last week and did my best to approximate some dishes like "over-the-moon sauces" and "mystery pork gumbo." Turns out, you can do this pretty well.

For example, since most sauces are high in fat, I just chose another high-in-fat sauce and recorded that. I also learned there are some (confirmed) pork gumbos listed in MFP.

So it turns out that my big splurge dinner on Thursday night (with 1 slice of luscious bread with butter, 3 fried oysters, 1/2 a bowl of pork gumbo, and red wine) was almost 1,000 calories, 86 carbs and 29 Protein grams. I'm actually happy to learn all this, and I don't regret a single mouthful. And I'm so pleased that my sleeve helped me to resist eating a second piece of bread, 3 more fried oysters and the rest of the pork gumbo.

Sleeve + MFP = power + knowledge

[joatsaint 2,814]

Here's my blog post of how I fell off the wagon and was able to recover and get back on track.

http://www.bariatricpal.com/blogs/entry/33645-dealing-with-setbacks-or-climb-down-off-the-cross-build-a-bridge-with-the-wood-and-get-over-it/

[*Lexie* 1,486]

This is a good thread with a lot of good advice. I hit 4 months recently and felt the tick-tock of that honeymoon clock. @@CowgirlJane is right, I have to stay focused on this first year. Great advice.

But I clearly did not get surgery on my brain because my brain is still very messed up. It still wants carbs and junk. @@VSGAnn2014 said something about consistency and I'm hoping with time and consistency that my brain will start to change. But I do stumble (sometimes into a piece of chocolate) and I get up, brush myself off and keep at it. I am stumbling a little less than before so that's positive.

To the OP, you came back from vacation and posted on here for advice. That clearly shows you are ready to get back on track so good for you for brushing yourself off and getting back at it. I have a vacation planned in September (right around my 1 year mark) and am going to an all-inclusive resort (unlimited food and alcohol) so the advice provided in this post is very helpful for me. I don't love alcohol unless it's sugary so I need to plan on not drinking. I need to stick with my meals and not graze.

[Spicy06 175]

I have my surgery date set for 3/9 and I am going to Aruba in November. I am so excited! Everything is all inclusive so we don't have to worry about paying for food or drinks. All I have to worry about is moderation and making good choices. I know that the rest of my life is not going to be full of chicken and salads. I know that I am getting a second chance at being healthy and I am going to take that chance and I am going to run with it. But if every once in a while I want a bite of a cheesecake, I am going to have a bite. The difference is I am not going to have a whole piece like I would have before.

Moderation, make good choices, and realize that we are all human is what is going to make this work. Knowing that every now and again you need to eat that small piece of chocolate so you don't eat ten other things trying not to eat it. Knowing that even if you eat a piece or even two (gasp) that you have not ruined your life and you can get back on the healthy ban wagon. Yes... we have all done something that has gotten us to this point, we have all over eaten, indulged, and one of our seven sins is totally gluttony.

No, there is no surgery to have on our brain that makes us want to work out and not eat our favorite unhealthy foods. But knowing that if we are able to make better food choices and make better life choices that we are going to be healthier and happier, then we are all going to get through this together and we can all succeed.

[Blue Sky 89]

So I had a weekend of being BAD in New Orleans. I have lost 51 pounds since pre-op and ahead of goal. Last Wed. I flew into NO with hubs and OMG. I didn't eat as bad as I would pre-surgery by no means. BUT I didn't make the best choices either. Bloody Mary's, butter laden crab claws, and a 1/2 a beignet. I know, I'm going to hell right?? Lol No, would just love to hear from some of the vets that might have had the same lapse and was able to get right back on goal.

Oh and for the pre-ops that want to know about eating post-op. Yes, for some you'll be able to eat what you want without getting sick. But no where near as much and alcohol doesn't have any different effect on me than before. I skipped the sugary mixes and drank straight liquor.

[Blue Sky 89]

So I had a weekend of being BAD in New Orleans. ???? I have lost 51 pounds since pre-op and ahead of goal. Last Wed. I flew into NO with hubs and OMG. I didn't eat as bad as I would pre-surgery by no means. BUT I didn't make the best choices either. Bloody Mary's, butter laden crab claws, and a 1/2 a beignet. I know, I'm going to hell right?? Lol No, would just love to hear from some of the vets that might have had the same lapse and was able to get right back on goal.

Oh and for the pre-ops that want to know about eating post-op. Yes, for some you'll be able to eat what you want without getting sick. But no where near as much and alcohol doesn't have any different effect on me than before. I skipped the sugary mixes and drank straight liquor.

I already know I'm the odd man out but taken from somebody whose about to take this plunge, I'm glad to know life can be normal! I mean you can still go out, socialize and still feel free to participate as long as you know your boundaries! That's a good thing to me.

[mae7365 372]

Wow, I'm not sure if I'm glad I'm following this or not. Lots and lots of very GOOD AND CONTROVERSIAL posts. I'll just be the Pollyanna and remind everyone that we are all in this together. We Celebrate each others victories and support each other when we relapse. And believe me, this Pollyanna is far from perfect. I have carb cravings that I've given into a few times over the past 12 weeks. But like many posts have said, I wake up the next morning, brush myself off and get back on the "high Protein, lots of fluid" train.

[Shadow427 272]

Just think of the Chubawumba song: "I get knocked down, but I get up again."

At first I was a little frustrated by the "tension" in this post... but, I am fine with it now. I have learned that if someone's comments sting me, then I should really try and figure out the root cause of that hurt... there may be something in that pushes on a bruise from the past.

[Iowa_summergirl 46]

This is a great post with lots of super replies. I believe that you have to splurge once in a while, just don't make a habit of it. Granted...I'm still in the honeymoon phase (3.5 months out)....

[Hoginona04 61]

This has been a pretty interesting post to follow so far. And I can totally understand the OP's situation. I live in Louisiana, we go to bed thinking about what we are going to eat and Celebrate tomorrow. Hell, everyday is a celebration of food and drink in our state. There's a festival almost every weekend somewhere in the state, and you can bet some of the finest cooking and booze will be available. Anyway, back to my boudin and burbon. (just kidding, I'm having a nasty Protein shake) "Laissez les bons temps rouler"

[Babbs 14,681]

My point is that NONE of us are going to be 100% perfect in our eating all the time. For goodness sake, we have to LIVE. So you go on vacation and overdo it a little? Get back on track the next day. Just because you break one plate unloading the dishwasher, doesn't mean you have to break the rest along with it.....

I know I'm a noob and in the "honeymoon" period of my surgery. But I'm also looking at this long term. If, ONCE IN A WHILE, I let my hair down a little and have a good time, I'm going to try to make sure I'm getting right back on track as soon as possible.I KNOW it gets harder as time goes on. But if I'm making good choices 95% of the time, I know I have a chance of keeping the weight off. I don't know. Maybe some of you can bookmark this thread and throw it in my face in a year or two when I'm struggling with maintenance, lol. I only know what I know NOW.

UGH. Sometimes the holier than thou attitudes on here are too much.

Haha. Someone had 'liked' this post recently and I loved reading my comment from when I was 6 months out.

Here I am, 2+ years out now, and I've been maintaining my weight for over a year, and I still believe everything I wrote. I still let my hair down once in a while (Just recently did a bit on Thanksgiving), but always right back to it again. Still following the 'rules' 95% of the time. Still working for me. When it doesn't, I'll change things up I've still got a long road ahead for sure.

[MemphisWLS 58]

Lolll, I just liked it. I knew it was from way back but I can't sleep so going through old posts and screenshotting great posts of wisdom for my WLS scrapbook.

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[Miss Rachel 25]

Omg! I'm so glad to hear that not everyone is post surgical angels that become robots after surgery! I think if we do what is right 99% of the time we can be bad on vacation! How do you not eat in new Orleans?! I will go on vacation and make a mess out of myself and come home, repent and get back on track. You made my day!

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