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Missy0224

By Missy0224, in LAP-BAND Surgery Forums

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derbygirl    0

derbygirl
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I don't know if they will stick with me through this or not.

All signs point to "no." It's amazing how someone you care about so much can become your biggest roadblock. If they do remain friends with you, watch out for sabotage. I hate to be so negative, but I feel like people should know this surgery is going to affect their relationships with other women so they can mentally prepare.

:ranger:

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TOOSLOW    2

TOOSLOW
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I Love Your Kitty Cats. I Have 4 Of My Own Just Like Them!!! I Love Them To Death!

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lawanda jessica    0

lawanda jessica
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Thank you green.

You know there is a book a friend suggested to me.

It's called toxic parents.

I never finished the book.

It reminded me too much of her.

She is not always like that but maybe I'm making excuses.

Congrats on making goal!

I'll meet you there soon!

Only nine days away from being a bandit!

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lawanda jessica    0

lawanda jessica
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I agree with derby girl.

I have a few fat friends myself.

One I would never discuss this with.

She's almost 400 pounds and I'm 245 and she thinks I'm a good size and would question me as to why I'm doing this.

My other friend has actually began her journey with her first wls seminar.

I'm happy for her.

Just know your true friends will be the ones to stick around!

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green    6

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All signs point to "no." It's amazing how someone you care about so much can become your biggest roadblock. If they do remain friends with you, watch out for sabotage. I hate to be so negative, but I feel like people should know this surgery is going to affect their relationships with other women so they can mentally prepare.

:ranger:

Derbygirl speaks the truth. It is always surprising, painful, and depressing how a change in your life will cost you some of your best friends forever. When I got married I suddenly lost all my single friends and when I divorced the married ones dropped off the map. When I was off work for 3 years because of major depression I lost contact with almost all of my work pals and now that I am retired I am in contact with only three of my former work friends. Over the years I have lost a number of best friends forever and each time I lost one it took me several years to recover from the pain of their rejection of me and my love for them. I often think that it is easier to recover from a romance gone bad.

And yup, often they will try to sabotage you before they leave. My last BFF, a single woman, tried to ruin my relationship with my mate.

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zuchinno    4

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My fiancé gained about 50lbs after we moved in together and were going out. Now we're gonna diet and exercise together. :confused:

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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