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Heck, at least karma got you $10. Buy yourself some pretty shoelaces, and think of how well you're doing every time you look at them.

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Remind her that you are in competition with no one. Show her that you are thrilled being you. And no matter what speed you are going, you are lapping the ones sitting on the couch. Good for you! Don't let her negativity even bother you, laugh it off and see what kind of response you get :)

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When she said she was just going to go on I think I might have said "I was sure hoping you'd say that... the way your acting doesn't make me want to keep walking with you!" ...and I think that would be my last excursion with her. Obviously she is insensitive to your feelings and willing to embarrass you in front of others. She might like to walk faster but for ONE WALK for the sake of the relationship... she could have went at someone else's pace without making a scene!

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I hate to get on here and vent but my mother in law drove me banonkers (bananna + bonkers) today, She invites me to walk with her down at the AG center, there are 2 trails there one goes 2miles around then there is a smaller trail that goes around some woods for about a mile around, now this is where I got my start, walking I told her about this trail, but since I have a treadmill I left off walking there when it turned off cold. Anyhow my mother in law is a ver fit person she walks on her own property behind her house up a logging trail 4 miles mostly uphill and a lot of it is steep, the AG center is mostly flat ground. Her and three other ladies have recently been walking down there every Sunday 4 miles, and asked me if I wanted to come. Immediatley she starts calling attention to how slow I am, 1st words out of her mouth were "Your going to have a hard time catching up." Then she turns and says she just can't walk at such a slow pace and is going to go on, I tell her to go ahead, she says "You see Angel we are going to walk ALL the way around" I understand that I told her just go on, but she's making wide circles like I have no idea what I'm in for. They go on ahead of me but I kept them in sight most of the walk. I walked three miles in all I went back to the car and found 10 dollars in the field on my way back, I was just really upset with how impatient she was being. To top it all off she gets back to the car and says pretty good for a beginner. grrrr.

Well that doesn't sound very supportive! Kudos to you for not letting that hinder you from competing the walk. You're nice I probably would have told her to shut the F up! Lol

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I hate to get on here and vent but my mother in law drove me banonkers (bananna + bonkers) today, She invites me to walk with her down at the AG center, there are 2 trails there one goes 2miles around then there is a smaller trail that goes around some woods for about a mile around, now this is where I got my start, walking I told her about this trail, but since I have a treadmill I left off walking there when it turned off cold. Anyhow my mother in law is a ver fit person she walks on her own property behind her house up a logging trail 4 miles mostly uphill and a lot of it is steep, the AG center is mostly flat ground. Her and three other ladies have recently been walking down there every Sunday 4 miles, and asked me if I wanted to come. Immediatley she starts calling attention to how slow I am, 1st words out of her mouth were "Your going to have a hard time catching up." Then she turns and says she just can't walk at such a slow pace and is going to go on, I tell her to go ahead, she says "You see Angel we are going to walk ALL the way around" I understand that I told her just go on, but she's making wide circles like I have no idea what I'm in for. They go on ahead of me but I kept them in sight most of the walk. I walked three miles in all I went back to the car and found 10 dollars in the field on my way back, I was just really upset with how impatient she was being. To top it all off she gets back to the car and says pretty good for a beginner. grrrr.

Too bad you couldn't find a nice big ole stick laying around to pop her in that big head of hers lol I'm kidding! I think all of us go through similar things. I have a step mom who loves to take me shopping because she wears much smaller sizes than me.... and loves to point that out. How adult/mature of her right? She's packed on a couple of pounds so last time we went she went up a size... I said hey weren't u in a 16 last time? I know I shouldn't have said that but I honestly felt better after I did I can't lie lol. I'm sure she's walking and dieting now so she can rub it back in my face, but for now I am satisfied lol.

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You are doing beautifully! Wait until a year from now......you'll be walking circles around her.

There it is!

Anger is a good motivator for some people. Works for me.

I would walk and work out alone until you are in top shape, invite yourself in to the group, blow their doors off. Revenge by success.

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