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Hi everyone,

Okay, I just got my surgical time (6am tomorrow morning) and now I'm totally freaking out. It just got real to me, I guess. Now I have all these questions and I'm obsessing. Will the surgery go okay? Will I be in a lot of pain? Will I get any restriction before my fill? Will my first fill hurt? What if this stupid thing doesn't work and I'm out $20,000? What if I can't follow the diet after the band and my life is a huge froth-fest from now on?

Is it normal to be this nervous? I'm just obsessing about all these things like a maniac! Did any of you go through this before the surgery?

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Wow, this is a pretty tall order to fill….your questions are pretty difficult to answer.

RE:Will the surgery go ok? Most likely your surgery will go off without a hitch.

RE:Will you be in a lot of pain? Depends, everyone is different. Take your pain meds, that's what they're for, and walk, walk, walk, and walk some more!

RE:Will you get any restriction before your fill? I had some restriction before my first fill, but not everyone does. Remember, everyone is different, and the time before your first fill is a time for HEALING, not weight loss.

RE:Will your first fill hurt? Didn't feel a thing at my first fill, but my port area felt bruised for a few days afterward.

RE:What if it doesn't work? It's a tool that YOU have to work with.

RE:What if I can't follow the diet? I'm not on a diet. I eat the same things as everyone else (except for soft bread and dry or tough meat), just a lot less of it than I would have eaten before.

RE:What if your life is a huge froth fest from now on? I haven't experienced this yet….Banded almost 4 months now…

RE:Is this normal? OF COURSE!!!!!!! It wouldn't be normal if you weren't nervous!!! I was an emotional wreck the day before surgery, but after you've been banded and have a couple of months under your belt, it won't seem like this huge deal anymore. You have to make some tough choices now and again, like forcing yourself to get off your behind and exercise even when you don't feel like it….or passing up those donuts someone brough in to work….but I truly believe that you'll be fine. Or even better than fine! You'll be great.

Good luck on your surgery tomorrow! Keep us posted on how you're doing!

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Just take a great big breath and say " I can and will do this for myself". I think everyone has one of those moments. We were busy flying to Mexico in which I had never been there before and was excited and amazed by Mexico I didn't give surgery a thought.

It will be so quick and I had much more pain from my root canal than my lapband surgery. They will give you something for pain if you need it so don't be afraid to ask.

You will feel some restriction after surgery as the band is pressure against your swollen stomach, or stoma. It won't last forever though and then you will get a fill. If done under fluro they hit it first time and it is not painful. Ususally it will take at least 3 fills to get what I call your sweet spot so be very patient.

Also, don't try losing weight after surgery, just go by your doctors rules, this is time for healing not weightloss, that will come in time.

You will be able to diet with the band with restriction. I am just not hungry and when I am can only eat about a cup so if you keep proper restriction you have no choice but to loose weight.

Good luck on your surgery and pm me if you have any questions whatsoever. I'd be more than happy to help you.

We'll be keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.

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Good luck tomorrow. I am sure you will do amazingly well. I was supposed to be banded tomorrow morning too but my Surgeon is sick and had to cancel his surgeries for tomorrow. So very dissapointing. Hopefully, my surgery will be resceduled for next week.

You are almost there!! I will be thinking of you!

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Don't worry I had my surgery yesterday & I'm up & moving about fine-Its sore to get out up on my right side. Other than that I,m drinking just fine-but I do feel a little hungry they say because the band isn't filled yet. I hope also that I will be able to follow the diet. If I don't get a fill for 2 months I guess its up to us to follow the diet-thats scarry lol we just have to trust everyone involved & I'm sure it will be great!

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Good luck tomorrow. I am sure you will do amazingly well. I was supposed to be banded tomorrow morning too but my Surgeon is sick and had to cancel his surgeries for tomorrow. So very dissapointing. Hopefully, my surgery will be resceduled for next week.

You are almost there!! I will be thinking of you!

I saw your other post, I was so sad for you! Thank you for your post. I'll be thinking of you next week too!

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Thank you so much BeachGirl. I feel better now that I'm less than 9 hours away (yikes!). I know this is the right thing to do. I'm really excited. Just looking forward to waking up with that band in!

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