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Hello everyone's I'm about 10 weeks post open and I've lost a total of 45 pounds but how come I still see the fat girl in the mirror....I go to the gym every other day and spend an hour doing cardio and weight training on the areas I need worked on...

Yes I'm losing inches (I'm a sized 16 from 18) but still look in the mirror and I see no change...what do you do to keep being motivated... I'm starting to slack on my eating habits with grazing on pistachios and walnuts. I need some help

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It takes awhile for your body image to catch up to your actual physical image. For some reason, other people can see changes before you can.

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At thirty pounds, my primary doctor noticed changes. It was forty before I could see changes. My body is shapeshifting and I do not recognize it anymore.

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Have you been taking pictures of your progress? I found when I started feeling the same way you did, I put all my progress pictures together in chronological order and saw just how much difference 45lbs made! It will make you feel a lot better, I promise!

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I know what you mean. I can see the loss in my face but not really anywhere else. My husband told me he sees it in my legs, my waist, and my (starting lack of) back fat. I am glad for the back fat to be going away! I also see it in the way my clothes look on me so I'm going with it. My scale says it is so. Another pound GONE this morning. WOOT! In time, you will see the loss in yourself too.

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I know exactly what your going through, At 47lbs down It's hard for me to see the difference in my body though I can feel it in my clothes and have went from a size 18-16 myself in the past 3 months. Everyone around me tells me they can see it, but not me. Maybe taking a current body shot this month and then taking another one to compare it to in 3 months time will help you see how far you've come?

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it sounds like you are doing an awesome job ... just keep pushing

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Thanks everyone I do see a difference but I think it's just a mental thing, when I slip into my 16 jeans I secretly think I can't fit them and then shocked all over again lol....I'm only 10 weeks post op and I feel like I can be losing more..but I'm not going to rush it, I am going to keep doing what I'm doing and pray by at least February I'm down to a size 14 Thanks for all your advice

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It's been seven months and over 100 lbs but I still see a size 28 in the mirror. Yet I look at my clothes and think they look so small now. But I've been fat for 31 of my 37 years. I figure it's going to take time for the mind to adjust.

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im still the exact same size post surgery--ive maybe lost an inch, IF THAT much...it gets better. depending on your body shape, you may take a bit longer to see the inches drop off...but they will drop!

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Also, you see yourself all the time, so you don't notice the small day to day changes. Try hooking up with a friend that hasn't seen you in a year or two and see what they say.

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I feel like my body has lost weight and my face hasn't caught up yet. I still see the fatboy in the mirror. I try not think about it and I know that it will all catch up soon.

I'm wearing pants that are smaller now and while I don't see the difference I want to see, everyone else does and I constantly get compliments.

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