Telling the Family

[penguino???? 43]

Well folks, today's the day I'm telling my entire family of my decision to have surgery 12/18. No one other than my mom knows as of this moment. What I fear they won't understand is that my primary has stated that if I didn't make this decision I wouldn't be here next year. It's really not about being thin .... It's really about saving my life.

Wish me luck and hope I get their support.

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[Elode 8,093]

@penguino Good luck!

[SuperDave 1,115]

Good luck! Keep in mind that you are doing this for you! While it is nice to have support, it really does not matter what anyone else thinks!

[penguino???? 43]

Thank you! I know your right. But being a single mom of two opinionated grown daughters it sure would be nice. I think they will be the toughest oddly enough.

Thanks for the support. ????

[Miss Mac 6,262]

You are bound to get mixed reviews. Just keep in mind that the nay-sayers probably won't throw away your car keys and block you from going out the door. You go do what you need to do to get healthier. Let us know how it goes.

[4me4them 381]

Happy supporting thoughts coming your way!

[Kindle 8,667]

Good luck! I told my sister about my surgery 1st because I wanted her to accompany me to Mexico. We both agreed to not tell my folks at first so not to worry them. But after talking about it we figured they'd be really mad at both of us for keeping it a secret. So I told them and after the initial shock, they were very supportive. I sent them all of my research about VSG as well as a link to several threads on this and other WLS forums to help ease their concerns. Then, between my mom and sister, they told my entire immediate and extended family. I got several texts and even cards from my nephews, niece, aunts and others wishing me luck.

I hope all goes well, and remember, their initial response will likely be mixed with shock and maybe some negativity. But hopefully they will end up giving you all the support you need. After all...that's what family is for.

[mttopma 17]

Hey girl, hope everything went well today. You need to take care of your own needs. Hang in there, we start our liquid diets in less than a week, ACK!!! You go girl, you got this.

[penguino???? 43]

Well folks, today's the day I'm telling my entire family of my decision to have surgery 12/18. No one other than my mom knows as of this moment. What I fear they won't understand is that my primary has stated that if I didn't make this decision I wouldn't be here next year. It's really not about being thin .... It's really about saving my life.

Wish me luck and hope I get their support.

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[Cota1262 40]

Good luck. I know how hard it is. I'm not telling any family at all. They won't understand and I don't need the stress. Hopefully your family is more understanding than mine.

[penguino???? 43]

Greetings All ~

I want to thank you all for your support. I gathered my family members in the front room and broke the news. As I was half way thru I started crying (what put me over the edge was my almost 21 yr old daughter with tears streaming down her face) as I was saying my speech.

Honestly the remainder if my speech is a blur to me but my mom said I covered all the bases.

I then gave all the family members a " family gift" as I do every Xmas. This year it was a stainless steel silver band with black enamel. Telling them just in case I wanted them all to know how much they mean to me and that I love them.

Other than all the stunned faces they appeared to get on the me train and claimed to offer anything I need.

End of story I'm relieved that I no longer have the secret and got the best possible outcome.

No judgement!!

Again thank you all for your support. Y'all know exactly how this feels in your own worlds.

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[Cota1262 40]

That's great. I'm very happy for you.

[Kindle 8,667]

Thanks for sharing! I love it when families come together like they should. sounds like you have an awesome one.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Congrats, Penguino.

Your family's quite different than mine.

Mine would've all been arguing with each other and me by the time I was two sentences in.

[Kindle 8,667]

Congrats, Penguino.

Your family's quite different than mine.

Mine would've all been arguing with each other and me by the time I was two sentences in.

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